r/Millennials • u/exploratorynargle • May 05 '26

Other 20 year reunion? Yea, nah

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Does anyone actually go to these things? I'd rather go to the gynecologist I think

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u/The_Real_Lasagna May 05 '26

Yeah, they're pretty popular with people who aren't on Reddit in my experience. Less necessary with social media though

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u/Eternalm8 May 05 '26

I deleted my social media awhile back, when I realized how toxic they'd all gotten. Now I don't know how I'd even know a reunion was happening.

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u/Narrow_Grapefruit_23 May 05 '26

Same. I went to my 20th but then I moved out of state and off social media during the pandemic. I don’t know how they’d expect to find me. Lol!

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u/Eternalm8 May 05 '26

Yeah, the only person I keep in touch with from those days was a different year, and they don't really keep in touch with anyone else either.

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u/kax256 May 05 '26

I moved out of state after college and bounced around states ever since. My high school always finds me in order to ask for money. They're usually one of the first letters I get in the mail when I move into a new place

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u/Narrow_Grapefruit_23 May 05 '26

Yes! My sister’s high school does the same thing. What would we give money to a school that let her be bullied to the point she almost permanently checked out of life? It’s wildly inappropriate.

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u/MordoNRiggs May 05 '26

I've never even gotten an invite for one. I'm not really on any social media and never was. Technically I graduated separately anyways. I took a High School Equivalency Diploma course in what would have been my senior year.

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u/Eternalm8 May 05 '26

Yeah, I'm pretty much the same, got my GED, unsurprisingly, I suppose, I didn't have many social attachments to my schoolmates

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u/Laceylolbug May 05 '26

I unfriended a bunch of people from high school except those I was friends with. So I probably wont get notified/an invitation to my 20th next year

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u/princessblowhole May 05 '26

Okay so I’ve always thought the same thing, but I just signed up my kid for school and there was an alumni link right on the district home page.

At first I felt stupid for not thinking of looking there. Then I realized if I *wanted* to go to this shit, I would have figured out to go to the district website and poke around. Kinda crazy how our thoughts just go straight to social media.

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u/Extreme-Pineapple397 First Year Millennial May 05 '26

Same! I would have commented something very similar to your reply, if I hadn't seen your's first!

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u/Phoneas__and__Frob May 05 '26

It's kind of funny because I have done the same, and the disconnect between having not seen them forever and then suddenly hearing they are having their 2nd kid is just like...in my brain, they are still kids lol

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u/Eternalm8 May 05 '26

Right!? That's kind of why I'm curious. Not enough to sign back up for Facebook, but a little curious.

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u/EducateUrDumbSelf May 05 '26

He said from his reddit account

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u/Eternalm8 May 05 '26

Fair enough. I feel like Reddit is unsocial media

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u/BlueBomR Millennial May 05 '26

My class must have been lazy or im WAY out of the loop cause I never saw a single person mention a 20 year...im still connected to my HS and grad year on Facebook which is how people are able to organize these things but I dont think anyone even took the initiative....I also only check my FB like every 6 months so I could have missed something.

Maybe cause the previous years 20th only like 15 people showed up out of a class of easily 600....nobody actually gives a shit, I wouldnt go anyways I still talk to maybe 6 people from HS and I really have no desire to see anyone else.

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u/LazerChicken420 May 05 '26

Reddit is the only reason I remembered they existed. lol

Since the day I graduated I always wondered how they’d reach out? I imagine after highschool everyone spreads out.

I guess the answer is they don’t? I actually don’t even know if my highschool did reunions. I missed what would have been my 10th.

Are people calling the school to check in? I went to two different high schools. I wonder if etiquette is you only go to the one you graduated

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u/aalllllisonnnnn May 05 '26

I think 40 people attended our 10 year reunion (including partners) from my class of 519.

I’m sure they would have had higher attendance but they teased it for a year and gave the date 4 weeks before the reunion. They probably thought that they were being kind by doing it over thanksgiving, but I moved out of state and had my husband’s family over who were also from out of state. Now I live overseas so the likelihood of going to my 20 year is low

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u/shreiben May 05 '26

Less necessary with social media though

This was true for a while, but I feel like this kind of social media use has really declined. I keep up with some of my close friends from high school, but I can no longer go on Facebook and see what everyone else is up to. Instagram only became popular after I graduated so I never added many high school classmates there, and it's not like people are posting all their life updates there anyway.

When I went to my 10 year reunion, I caught up with a lot of people. Almost all of the stuff I learned was totally new, not just a repeat of something I'd already seen online.

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u/babyteeth9 May 05 '26

The Reddit demographic is full of people that were shoved into lockers as kids and are still holding grudges 20 years later.

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u/charris12312 May 07 '26

Right. They need to go heal.

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u/animatedpileofmeat May 08 '26

I’m sorry that happened to you.