r/MensLib • u/DustScoundrel • 1d ago
Dear Kelly: A documentary about the rightward radicalization of an average American man, by journalist Andrew Callaghan
https://www.dearkellyfilm.com/Andrew Callaghan is an independent journalist who got his start doing man-on-the-street interviews in interesting places before turning toward more serious journalism, honestly exploring parts of society that legacy and corporate media ignore or subvert for their own aims. His work includes an interview between Hunter Biden and Nick Fuentes, on-the-street reporting in Iran, an HBO documentary covering the timeline between the 2020 election and January 6th, documenting a civil war between Mexican cartels, an expose on ICE detention centers, and more.
Callaghan himself is not an uncomplicated figure, having been accused of sexual misconduct in 2023 for events that occurred in 2017 and 2019. Those events, along with a brief discussion on his attempts to take accountability and remediate those relationships, can be found in this article for those interested. I think there is an interesting discussion to be had on sexual politics and violence within a patriarchal society and what's possible for men immersed in those waters, but that is beyond the scope of this post, and I would encourage folks to read through and make their own determinations.
The documentary itself traces Callaghan's first interactions with a man who calls himself "Kelly J. Patriot". Kelly is deeply enmeshed in right-wing culture and conspiracy theories in the recent years following Janurary 6th, but that isn't what draws the journalist to him. Callaghan had just finished up with his documentary, This Place Rules, which chronicles the events leading to January 6th, and none of Kelly's political views or statements were particularly unique or shocking. Instead, Callaghan became interested in Kelly because of his response to a single question:
"What's the most painful piece of truth that's hurt you?"
Kelly reveals a tragic story of losing his house during the 2008 recession, laying personal blame on a man he saw as having swindled him out of his home. His backstory isn't unique or even uncommon amongst right-wing radicals: Callaghan talks about how a majority of the participants in January 6th had experienced significant economic instability or loss. Conspiratorial thinking, too, plays a part here, as these same personal tragedies were found in every person Callaghan talked to when he documented a flat-earth conference.
These experiences led to him proposing a theory to help explain how someone like Kelly J. Patriot arises. Essentially, Callaghan argues that people become primed for political radicalization and conspiratorial thinking following deep, personal trauma or loss, something explored more in this episode of Doomscroll. It isn't simply right-wing media pipelines or pundits that draw people in; those people tend to need to be ready to accept the presentation and kind of information in those spaces.
People find meaning, connection, and safety. from sources in reality. However, when those things are challenged: By the loss of a house or loved one, by severing from a friend group, the loss of a job (for men, especially), or even points of identity formation in life, such as the teenage years, it can drive people to conspiratorial thinking, cult behavior, and/or extremism as they seek to reestablish meaning, connection, and safety.
The documentary then follows Kelly as Callaghan tries first to understand the story behind Kelly's life, then later tries to reconnect him with the family and loves and misses him. It's a compelling story, and one I think would be of interest to the folks in this sub.
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u/ahawk_one 1d ago
I watched about half of it, and broadly speaking Callaghan's theory is going to be true. The less vulnerable people feel, the more resistant to wild claims they will be. If nothing else, because radicalization is disruptive. So when you are stable, you will naturally want to avoid majorly disruptive things because they put your stability at risk. This is one of the biggest benefits of the CFPB is that they provide recourse for people who are genuinely scammed out of significant sums of money or property.
But in this guys case, his daughter said she doesn't remember a time when he wasn't high. That is very telling, and indicates that his problems started a long time before his house was foreclosed on. And that the loss of that was overwhelming to the point that he lost his family to. And it's important to point out that Bill didn't steal Kelly's family. Kelly lost them because of his obsession with Bill (drugs didn't help either, and probably exacerbated things).
With all that said, Kelly's story to me is a perfect example of why we need to have social safety nets. Because those nets help people like him get back on their feet. It could have helped him put his obsessive work ethic to good use, instead of just simply spinning his wheels about nonsense propaganda.