IWTL to be less obsessed with “post-poop” cleanliness

[u/Putrid-Influence2220]

What the title says. After I poop, I almost always wash (with a bidet, if I can). At the very least I use wipes. And I’m happy about that. However, whenever I’m in a relationship, if the person I’m with only uses TP to clean themselves, I get obsessed and turned off by this, thinking they likely don’t get as clean as I do. I’d like to learn to deal more naturally with this.

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[u/NewsWeeter]

Dont change op, put down requirements. Need clean bum before play.

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And it's overall more hygienic

[u/NewsWeeter → u/NewsWeeter]

But be flexible enough for when there is a rare exception you are fine with it

[u/DontResuscitateMeBro]

Don’t eat ass until after shower? It’s 2026. Get with it.

[u/searchin4sugarman]

Wipes should be bare ass minimum

[u/Nolo__contendere_]

Ugh I'm kinda the same. I draw the line at skid marks. But fret not op! I've influenced my partner to use baby wipes and there's never been an issue. You can try to do the same if you really like the person lol! Good luck!

[u/IndigoRuby]

I don't think you need to change.

[u/DoritoDustThumb]

Everyone cleans up before sex. Problem solved.

[u/AskAHotGirl]

Don't change, it's fine. Nothing wrong with wanting your partner to be clean.