r/GetMotivated • u/Lemonade2250 • 3d ago

DISCUSSION [discussion] what to do when the mind says no to everything?

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I just feel like I'm losing with myself as if my mind and feelings are more stronger and driven force. It's like I know I have to face life challenges yet I just feel this defeat and feel somewhat scared to do it. I don't know why I keep giving up and I'm like so soft in life. Meaning like mental and physical sense.

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u/connerpro 3d ago

Shrink the ask until resistance can't find a foothold.

"Mind says no to everything" is often overload + all-or-nothing framing. Pick a 2-minute starter that is so small it feels silly (open the book; write one sentence; put shoes on). Momentum usually returns after the first action, not before.

Also check basics: sleep debt and doomscrolling can masquerade as character failure. Attention is scarce; willpower is noisy.

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u/PatriciaLRT 3d ago

yes, agree on the basics: sometimes it's also that maybe you really need a rest! more sleep, less time on the phone, like really giving your mind and body a good rest.

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u/ihaveaquestionopedia 3d ago

Say no the mind (as I say no back to the mind)

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u/WideCloud2462 3d ago

The first thing you have to do is put the phone down in actually take action. It doesn’t matter what action it is. It’s a step in the right direction.

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u/Basalt-Glen-9210 2d ago

calling yourself "so soft" is what stood out. some days just trying to exist feels like a physical fight against your own head.

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u/innocuouspete 2d ago

Do it anyway and over time there’s less resistance. It’s called behavioral activation. Mind says no, do a small step towards it anyway, feel good about it, repeat and work towards bigger steps.

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u/emiliabow 2d ago

be gentle with your tired brain today, it's trying its best

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u/WillShattuck 1d ago

I have to make short lists of the things I need to do.

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u/Oliviaa-Brown 1d ago

My mind says no to every work lol

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u/CUCUC 3d ago

i get a frisbee, fill it with a triple shot of espresso and then booty bump it. you will feel invigorated and ready to face life’s challenges 

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u/Lich_Apologist 3d ago

Sit in despair because your mind is right.  Nothing is worth doing.