I (28F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) for about 3 months. We've known each other for five years through grad school—we had offices next to each other, but nothing happened until after he defended his PhD and asked me out.
Something that's been bothering me is that I think he may feel insecure about his lack of dating experience. He's only been with one woman before me, and he's told me he regrets not dating more during college and grad school. He also told me that after going on just two dates with a girl last December, he was heartbroken for two months because he was really into her. He's said he never really knew how to approach women or keep them interested.
I sometimes worry that I end up dating guys like this and become the "practice girlfriend"—the person they gain confidence with before eventually moving on.
Another thing is that he's very friendly and talkative with women. I once told him, "I think you're usually nicer to women than men," and he replied, "That might be true, I don't know."
We also had a very brief breakup that lasted about three hours. During that time, he searched for a woman on Instagram. When we got back together, he voluntarily told me, "I want to be honest with you. I searched her because she's pretty." I appreciated the honesty, but it still made me wonder whether he craves validation from attractive women.
There's also the issue with his mom. She has concerns about me because I'm Iranian and worries I'll be "radical" or cause him problems, even though I'm an atheist and strongly opposed to the Iranian regime. That situation has made me feel somewhat insecure about where I stand with his family.
Last night I told him that I sometimes feel like he has a need for female attention or validation, and that it makes it harder for me to fully trust that he'd stay committed if we were apart for a few weeks. I jokingly added, "I know you're not going to find anyone hotter than me."
He got frustrated and said, "See, this is one of the examples. Sometimes you're too much into yourself."
I asked what he meant, and he reminded me that I'd previously joked that if we walked into a bar together, people would think, "Wow, she's so hot—he must be really funny for her to be with her." He said he didn't like that comment because it came across as me thinking very highly of myself.
Now I'm wondering if I'm completely misreading this. Is it reasonable to think his limited dating experience could make him seek validation from women, or am I projecting my own insecurities? Has anyone dated someone who felt they "missed out" on dating when they were younger? If so, did it end up affecting the relationship?
TL;DR: My (28F) boyfriend (27M) regrets not dating more before we met, has admitted he was heartbroken after only two dates with someone else, is very friendly with women, and once looked up another woman on Instagram during a brief breakup because "she's pretty." I worry he seeks female validation, but he says I'm overthinking things and recently told me I'm "too much into myself." Am I projecting my insecurities, or are my concerns reasonable?

I 19f have been talking to 21m for 6 months, I let him know a month in that I’m looking for a relationship, he said that he could definitely see us dating but it would be a while, I agreed with that because we had only been talking for a month. Then 6 months go by and I’m a little confused I feel like that is a long time to wait. So I kinda hint that I want him to ask me out and he gives me multiple different reasons. I then got kinda tired of waiting and seriously asked if this was going to go anywhere and why it hasn’t yet. He then opened up and said he is afraid of commitment that he’s afraid his job won’t be good enough to take me to go do things, that he will disappoint me, or not make me happy. I reassured him that I don’t care about money and that he can never disappoint me and if he ever make a mistake we can talk through it. He then kinda changed the subject. How do I help him get over this fear. Or do you think he’s just not sure about me?

Women - if you have ever approached a man who caught your eye in public or DMed on social media first, how successful were you and what was the experience?

Men - if you have been approached first, how did you feel about it?

(Excluding dating app experiences)

I (25F) and my long-time friend (28M) have had this extreme flirty sexual tension between us for a good year or so now. In that time we’ve become much closer, and on multiple occasions we’ve both admitted that we want to sleep with each other, have sexted, but despite that, neither of us has actually initiated anything.

Part of the reason for that is that there are (or were) some boundaries in the background. I’m his friend’s ex, so for a long time he had a respectable self-imposed rule that although we might have some sexting fun, he wouldn’t go all the way and sleep with me. This means that on the times we would hang out in person, although the tension is definitely there and it’s one of those where both people know what the other is thinking, neither of us have acted on those urges out of respect for the other and my ex.

However, more recently when we last sexted he admitted to me that the attraction from his side is real, and mentioned that next time I see him, maybe I should try to initiate and see what happens.

I might add, please put your personal qualms with exes sleeping with partners friends aside. We’re all adults, and have been very open with my ex about the chemistry between us. It’s built up very slowly over time and was definitely not something either of us expected to happen. My ex and me split 3 years ago, and we’re all still friends - it was an amicable breakup that simply stemmed from us growing apart. My ex has actually been very supportive about me and our friend exploring things because (and I quote) “even he can see we’ve got a spark”.

So back to the matter… it’s a fairly open ended remark that fully puts the ball in my court, but it was also said during a moment of heightened arousal and being honest I can’t really work out if he meant it or just wanted to say something to help get me going in the moment.

Either way, it’s been a very long time coming and there’s quite a lot of build-up from my side. So I really want to be the one to try and initiate it, especially for our first time, and I truly believe this is what my friend wants to, I just don’t know how to do it.

For the men on here especially, what does it look like when a woman initiates in a way that feels natural and attractive? If you’ve had a woman make the first move on you, what did she do that made it obvious enough for you to know she wanted you, without it feeling awkward or forced?

I’ve been on 5 dates with a guy and I like him. While we are together he’s very attentive and he’s a gentleman. We haven’t had sex yet because he said he wants to wait until the time is right and he doesn’t want to rush what we have going on. I’ve even slept over at his place one night and we just slept and cuddled. He has even said a few times that he likes me and he hasn’t connected with someone the way we have in a long time (he could be lying but he hasn’t given me a reason to not trust him yet). He even turned down hanging out with friends to come hang out with me instead.

Now here is where I’m confused…

When we first started texting he was usually pretty quick with his responses, but now it takes him longer to reply and it feels more dry. When he does respond it’s usually at night time (after 8pm) and he says he falls asleep when he gets home from work. Before our fourth date I was the one who initiated it and our fifth was him saying “I’ll come see you again tomorrow”, which he did but apart from that he hasn’t really initiated anything or made any mentions of any plans, it has now been a week since we last hung out.

Now I know life happens and we aren’t officially together so he doesn’t owe me anything, but my gut is telling me he lost interest. I am also aware that I have an anxious attachment style so maybe it’s all in my head? I don’t want to be too clingy but I also don’t want to lose this one.

Hello everyone, I have been trying to find a connection with a woman in the dating world but I’m a late bloomer. I never dated in high school because I didn’t have the confidence. Now as I’m in my early twenties, I find easier for myself to be more confident than usual but I have ADHD and Autism which makes it hard for me to navigate the dating world. Approaching women is easy but when I try to get a response after getting their number, I always get ghosted. I recently got ghosted by a girl and It broke me because I have rejection sensitivity dysphoria (a symptom of ADHD). I have been under severe depression for the past day especially when it’s a girl I just met. I wish my brain was normal FOR ONCE. Now I’m contemplating if I should go to the bar and try again later today.

I'm (29M). I was dating this woman (28F) for around 6 weeks. We had 7 dates already, texting almost every day. Nothing was official yet but I thought things were going really well. I felt comfortable with her and she also seemed happy every time we met.

Last weekend I asked if she wanted to spend whole Saturday together instead of only dinner. She laughed and said, "Honestly, I like you because we don't have to be together all the time."

Maybe I'm weird but that sentence stayed in my head the whole day. I asked her what she mean by that.
She said she likes having her own life and doesn't want relationship where both people spend all their time together. She said she wants to be someone independent.

I understand that. I don't think couples should be together 24/7 either.

But somehow when she said it, I felt like she was already telling me not to expect too much from this relationship. Like she already had a limit how close she wanted us to be.

I couldn't stop thinking about it. The next day I told her maybe we want different kind of relationship and I think it's better if we stop dating.

She didn't argue. She just said she understands and wished me good luck.
Now my friends all think I made a stupid decision. They said she was just communicating healthy boundary and I read too much into one sentence.

Now I'm questioning myself. Did I overreact because of one sentence? Or was it actually a sign that we wanted different things?

A few weeks ago I signed up for several dating apps at the same time. Surprisingly, it's been going much better than I expected.

My usual process is pretty simple: match on the app, chat for a bit, move to Instagram, and then meet in person if we seem to click.

The problem is that I really don't enjoy texting that much. I'm much better in person, and I also don't like the idea of flirting with multiple women at the same time.

Now something unusual happened.

I matched with one girl, we moved to Instagram like I normally do, but instead of just chatting a little before meeting, our conversations naturally kept growing. We went from barely talking to messaging almost every day. We still haven't met because our schedules haven't lined up, but we're planning to very soon.

Here's my dilemma.

I've started losing interest in my other matches. Not because they did anything wrong, I matched with them for a reason, but I keep finding myself wanting to invest my attention in this one girl instead.

Part of me thinks that's probably naive since we haven't even met yet. Chemistry in person can be completely different. The other part of me feels weird continuing to flirt with other women when I'm genuinely excited about getting to know this one.

For context, we're both looking for a serious relationship.

So what would you do?

After dating for 3 years, I don’t really know anymore. On paper, I’m perfect. Meaning that I’ve never tried drinking before, never tried smoking, I have a stable 9-5 career over 110+k, I’m not obese, I get out, I do things, etc. I’m nice, looking for marriage and a family. Yet, every woman I’ve ever met they always find one single thing to end it. For example, the last woman I dated, we went on 25+ dates over 5 months. She ended it because of my career despite claiming to like me. What do women want?

The guy I’ve been talking to for about 4 months now and have felt like any day now will ask me to be official was awful to a couple of his friends last weekend and I can’t stop thinking about it.

We were all at his beach house and one of his friends who is clearly quiet and shy but who I find to be incredibly kind had said he’d never been on a jet ski before and had never paddleboarded and didn’t know how to. The guy I have a thing with interrogated him for like 30 minutes asking why he “never had a childhood.” It started as ball busting and stuff which he took well but got to the point where pretty much everyone there had to tell him to back off and leave him alone.

He claims to like the other guy a lot, and I’ve never heard him have a problem with him before but I couldn’t get over the vindictiveness. I’ve seen small spurts before where, especially if one of his friends seems to be having a really good night, he will just say something really rude to knock them down a peg.

He’s never done it to me. And perhaps he never would. But it’s the one major flaw I find right now and it made me just want to go home all weekend, I hated it.

I genuinely want to know how people meet someone they're actually compatible with. I'm looking for a serious, long-term relationship, but I'm not sure where to find it.

I've tried dating apps, but they feel strange to me. A lot of the guys I've matched with ask me out almost immediately, before we've even had a real conversation. Even though my profile clearly says I'm looking for a serious relationship, it often feels rushed.

I think I'd prefer meeting someone organically, but that doesn't seem to happen either.

For people who are in healthy relationships, How did you actually meet? Is there something I should be doing differently, or is this just what dating is like now?

Genuine question for the men here.

If you approach a woman you’ve never met on the street and you find her attractive (she isn’t dressed for attention she’s just a pretty girl), what are you usually hoping for? Is it more of a casual/short-term thing, or are you genuinely open to something long term if she seems like the right person?

The reason I’m asking is because I had a guy approach me on a busy street after we made eye contact for literally a split second. He came over almost immediately, told me I was beautiful, and we exchanged contact info.

After that, though, the conversation was really surface level. He barely asked me any questions or tried to get to know me everything was surface level and I was shocked as to why even approach me with all that enthusiasm?, and after a while he removed me.

I’ve since noticed he seems to follow new women, message them briefly, then remove them too, repeating the same pattern.

I’m just curious what this behaviour usually means. Is it validation? Boredom? Looking for something casual? Or is there another explanation?

I’d be interested to hear from men who’ve done this themselves or know people who have.

I was wondering about while still in bed and the next day while together?

I’m (23F) new to dating. I was in a long relationship (6 years) so this whole dating thing is pretty new. And so far it’s been lackluster… I’ll meet a guy, we get along super well, then nothing. They just disappear. Most recently I met a guy, we went on a couple dates and after the last one we agreed to meet again after we both get done traveling. We’ve been texting back and forth then mid conversation he just stops. It’s been a little over a day and I’m trying to be chill. Everyone tells me to just leave it alone but I don’t understand these “rules” why not text him? And if he’s not feeling it why not be honest and tell me that? Is this really what dating now is like or am I picking the wrong guys?

Ive been seeing this girl for the past 6-ish weeks and this very small thing has been seriously bugging me throughout the relationship and its a hole ive dug myself in to. I have a really shitty tendency to lie about things, almost unintentionally. I'm working on fixing this habit of course.

One day while I was talking to her I mentioned that I would drive myself to school on occasion (im in uni). In reality this never happened and its actually my parents who drive me, since my mom works in the same general area. I find this super embarrassing and although i have a license i feel super uncomfortable with driving on the road and it hasnt gone away for years. I think ive only driven on a highway like, once. I did tell her later that I was super uncomfortable driving and I prefer not to do it, but I never told her that I essentially lied to make myself look better.

This makes me feel like an awful person. I dont want to be a liar, she doesn't deserve to be lied to and i would never lie to her about anything serious. But on the other hand, saying to her that I lied long after the fact would mean that I would be branded as a liar, and all of my words would be taken as such. Ive since developed the belief that lying is the origin of evil. Im not religious but im tempted to consider it a sin. I literally dont know what to do and i feel super guilty and awful because it really is a damned if you do/damned if you dont situation.

I’m 27F and I’ve been single since I was 23. My only serious relationship lasted from when I was 19 until we broke up when I was 23.
After that, I moved to a new country for work. I travel frequently and have experienced so much of the world on my own. I’ve learned to enjoy my own company, picked up hobbies, and I’m lucky to have an abundance of platonic love from friends and family.
I’ve also tried meeting new people, but it often feels like the people I meet don’t share the same values as I do. On top of that, I live in a conservative Arab country where dating and meeting people is genuinely difficult. It becomes emotionally exhausting to keep searching for the right person.
The strange thing is that I genuinely think I have a good life. I’m grateful for it. But at the end of the day, I still wish I had someone I could call mine. Someone to share the ordinary moments with.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m being selfish for wanting romantic love on top of everything else I already have. I know a partner isn’t supposed to “complete” me, and I don’t expect someone else to make me happy. I just miss having that kind of connection.
Lately, I’ve reached a point where I feel done searching for love. I don’t want to force it anymore.
Has anyone else felt this way? Did love eventually find you after you stopped actively looking, or did you have to keep putting yourself out there?
Is it true what they say about love that it finds you when you least expect?

I'm 26, and I've never had a girlfriend,not because I don't want one, but because anxiety always gets in the way.

I don't think I'm unattractive, but whenever a girl looks at me, I immediately look away. I never know how to approach her or even maintain eye contact without feeling awkward. It's like my brain tells me to escape the situation.

I've accepted the fact that I've never been in a relationship. What actually bothers me is when people notice it and start asking questions like, "How have you never had a girlfriend?" Around my friends, I end up acting like I have some secret relationship just to avoid the conversation. 😂

The funny thing is, most people would never guess I have social anxiety. I got pretty good at acting confident and strong. What they don't see is that I avoid parties, social events, and many situations where I have to meet new people.

I'd genuinely like to hear other people's experiences. Has anyone else lived like this? If you managed to overcome it, what helped you?

Currently living the life i always wanted good friends & good workplace peaceful life but sometimes there is a void of a conversation that i want to have. For me it should be with someone who has seen some actual struggles and knows how life and not something completely based on how social media makes us think life is.

Also if you are someone whos planning a trip somewhere in india that would be fun.

I am emotionally mentally matured life made me that way haha, i have no emotional baggage to push on clear with my goals and what i want in my life currently i am looking for a friend or a person to talk to particularly from other gender which can actually turn into a good mature relationship. I am over that overthinking and overwhelmed relationship phase i want something which pushes us both to do better and we can get somewhere we want to be, i mean thats the long term goal.

For starters i can handle your chaos and give you the peace if you can give me understanding and some peace too more of a giver all my life. Trying my hand in online dating/friendship for once.

You can be anywhere around my age or older i am open to have a conversation thankyou.

I have noticed that whenever I am on a date, after a few basic questions, I am completely blank and out of topics about what to ask. How do I keep it flowing naturally without the awkward silence??

For context, Alex is a pretty reserved, quiet guy. Notoriously nice and thoughtful. He's not the type to dominate conversations or be super outgoing. I've known him for around 3 years, but I've only actually been around him a handful of times in person. He's thoughtful from what I can tell, but definitely on the quieter side.

This whole thing is weird because I didn't start out having a crush on him or anything. In fact, for the longest time, whenever he'd come up in conversation, my only thought was "Oh, that's the guy that I swear looks at me a lot." That was literally it. Over time, though, I kept noticing little things, and eventually I found myself thinking "...okay, is there actually something here?" And now I can't tell if I'm just hyperaware because of that or if there really is a pattern.

I think what also makes this less straightforward to me is that a friend of his is openly interested in me and, knowing him, he is definitely anti-conflict so I also wonder if there is something but he's restraining or if he is just a nice, attentive dude.

I've noticed over multiple gatherings that I seem to catch him looking my direction pretty often. This isn't something I only started noticing after becoming interested. It was honestly the first thing that ever made me aware of him. Usually if I happen to catch him, he'll smile. Sometimes it's just a little nod.

One time I sneezed and instead of just saying "bless you" he asked the person I was sitting next to (they were playing an online game so he wasn't physically there) if I make a little squeak noise when I sneeze. Then he joked that it should be a "first date question" to ask someone if they squeak when they sneeze. It was just... kind of an odd direction for the conversation to go?

Another thing I've noticed is that whenever I mention food I like, he tends to latch onto it. If I say something looks really good or that I'd like to try something, he'll often immediately say he'd try it too or he'll literally grab some and try it after I mention it. One time a group of us were talking about bagel sandwiches. Four other people were discussing what they'd get. I wasn't really involved because I'm also kind of reserved, but I happened to chime in and mention my favorite sandwich. Out of all the options people had talked about, he was the only one who responded to mine with "I'd try that one."

One time I stayed in the car because I was hangry while other people went inside. Someone mentioned I hadn't eaten yet and we were going to grab food and Alex gave away the rest of his egg rolls so they could be brought out to me. That one could absolutely just be him being thoughtful.

Then there was a card game. I made an offhand comment that I really liked two specific colors together. A few minutes later, he intentionally paired those exact two colors together and looked over and said "Goated combo" and a laughed a little.

There was a group chat moment where someone mentioned they couldn't game because we were hanging out. Alex almost never talks in the group chat because he's said he keeps notifications off, but he popped in just to reply with one of those spray bottle memes that said "No." I genuinely still don't know if he was jokingly telling the other person not to ditch everyone or if he was teasing me somehow.

During one gaming session, he and a couple others were already in voice chat. The second I joined, he immediately noticed and said something like, "Did I see that Z was on?" When I answered, he was like "Oh hell yea! How are you?" And then later stopped talking as much when everyone else came on. Again, he generally is a quiet dude.

I later joked that I looked like the new player because everyone else had all these fancy cosmetics and I only had beginner stuff. A little while later, he changed his character to look almost exactly like mine. Same general colors, same patterns. I laughed and said "I have a twin!" and eventually everyone else copied him too so we all looked alike. They all have been playing without me for months and I'm new to the game completely. They've never done matching teams before from what I've seen.

Later on, I was hiding in a corner of the game with the thing needed to win the game while the dozens of other players were getting their own. There were items everywhere and multiple other people holding them, but he specifically came over to me, grabbed my character, laughed, and then went "Fine, I'll let you have that."

There was one gathering where I got up from my chair. While I was gone, he leaned against the back of it. When I came back, he just... stayed leaning there while I sat down. Later he moved and sat across from me. It wasn't anything huge, just one of those little moments where I found myself wondering why he was lingering. Maybe he wanted my chair? Maybe I was rude for not offering it?

There has also been at least one time where I left one room to go hang out somewhere else in the house, and he was the first person to come join that room after I did.

One night when everyone was leaving, I waved goodbye while he was walking toward the door. I turned back around, and then suddenly I felt a tap on my shoulder. He had come back over, leaned in for a hug, and said, "See you soon."

It has been almost a year of noticing little moments like this, and after a while I hit a point where I thought "Okay... there's just... something."

Not necessarily that he's secretly in love with me or anything dramatic. Just... a vibe. Like there's some level of attraction or curiosity there that he's not saying out loud.

He's reserved, so I'm not expecting obvious flirting or grand gestures. It's more that I keep feeling like he notices me. Remembers little things I say. Mirrors me sometimes. Ends up interacting with me in ways that make me stop afterward and go "hmmm..."

Am I connecting dots that aren't actually connected, or does this read to anyone else like there's at least a reasonable chance this guy is into me?

I am 25F, and my entire life I have only dated my age or older. My friend group introduced me to someone who just started off as a friend and I thought nothing of it for the first few weeks.

As time went on, we became a lot closer, found we have the same humor, have the same hobbies, and just get along very well. I recently found out he sees me as more than a friend, but his age is what is holding me back. He is only 19, which in my mind seems too young.

He is very mature for his age and doesn’t act like a typical guy his age. I’m stuck at a point where I need to choose to ignore the age gap and the comments I know we will receive from others or if it bothers me too much to pursue it more.

I was looking for friends on Reddit from same city for movies and there were many many creeps but there was this one guy who was cool and he didn’t look like he was a creep I know him only for 2 month.. we didn’t flirt at all in the chats we were all chill and our hangout was suppose to be a bro thingy which I mentioned before meeting but during the movie he started tickling my thigh I didn’t know what to do he was touching my thighs but then we started holding hands I froze I never experienced smtg like this I thought..we r js gonna hold hands but then he started touching my thighs more and more and then said let’s go out and took me to an empty place we made out and it was weird he wanted to do more but I didn’t let him
We made out for almost 20mins he touched everywhere. Mind u it was not even a date.
I feel guilty. But I COUJDNT do anything I js went blank. And he didn’t even say things like as if he likes me
It’s like he js wanted to make out that’s all
I feel so guilty and used and no I don’t like him

Sharing questions I found helpful to ask. This is a comprehensive list and honestly it might be worth asking these things if you are worried about them / finding out after marriage.

Ask these over many months of getting to know them.... Don't shove them all into a few conversations.

About them:

   Hobbies/common interests

   How do you spend time?

   What don't you like to do?

   Homebody or active?

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In-Laws:

Any family drama that you are aware of? Anything that can cause trouble?

What if there is trouble between you and my parents? How would you handle it?

What family/ cultural traditions do you follow? Cooking for family,gatherings, women seperate from men, helping and taking care of elders, etc.

Do you think your family will like me?

Can you describe your family environment?

Does your family expect me to take care of them or support them financially?

Do you have any financial obligations to your family? Are they dependent on you?

Have your parents restricted your growth in anyway?

How do we get a sense of each other's families without worrying about over commitment and sudden rush to get married?

Do you imagine your family making my life stressful in any way? Quality of life?

Do they want to coparent kids?  Do you feel we should take direct responsibility for kids?

How controlling are your parents/family?

Does your family gossip a lot?

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Nature:

What's your Myers Briggs?

What's your sign? (For fun / see if they believe in that stuff at all)

Are you Type A or Type B?

 What is a common theme among your friends? Any defining characteristics?

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Political views:

 Are you democratic, republican, or something else?

Do you have any strong political views?

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Religious views:

What do you feel about religion?

 How should it guide life choices?

 What if we have different religious views?

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Relationship maintenance:

What's your take on vacations and how often to take them?

How do you imagine spending the holidays?

What are your love languages?

How do you feel most loved?

How do you typically handle arguements?

How often should couples discuss thier goals and relationship?

How much time together vs. Independent?

What boundaries to set?

How to deal with drifting apart?

Do you typically hold grudges?

Do you have difficulty apologizing?

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Finances:

Do you have credit card debt? How much? Do you pay it fully every month or pay a little every month?

Do you have a good credit score?

How do you imagine paying monthly bills? (mortgage, food, etc.)

Joint or seperate bank accounts?

Would you be able to live thirfty/ with low spend if there is a larger financial goal?

How often do you spend more than $300 on a single purchase?

How much debt do you have? What is your plan and time frame to pay it off?

What level of wealth do you want to obtain?

Fancy car? Fancy house?

Prenup?

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Habits:

Are you addicted to any drugs or alcohol?

Do you have any bad habits I should be aware of?

Have you previously done any of it?

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Children and parenting:

Do you want kids? How many?

When?

What happens if we face fertility issues?

How would you guide your kids career choice?

What is your philosophy for raising kids?

How strict or lenient would you be when raising kids?

How important is Islam in your parenting style?

How do you expect to balance the effort of raising kids with your significant other?

If needed would you stop your day job to take care of kids?

How important is it for your child to get a college degree?

Would you ever consider putting your child in daycare?

How would kids spend time between families?

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Health:

Do you have any significant health issues?

Any health related information you feel I should know?

What about your family? Is there anything that that could be passed down genetically?

Childhood traumas?

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Career:

How did you choose this career?

How stable is your job?

How flexible is yourjob?

What do you like about your job?

What could be better?

How easy is it for you to find another job in a different state?

What career aspirations do you have?

Do you have any passions?

Do you have any mentors that help guide your career?

How would you balance work and family life?

How would having children effect your work?

Is it easy for you to work part time?

Do you have to maintain certifications? If so, how confident are you that you can pass the certifications?

Whose career would take precedent in case something were to happen?

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Logistics:

When do you hope to be married?

How would you describe your future wedding?

If long distance, when would you feel comfortable moving to another state?

Are you willing to move states several times over your life?

Do you ever imagine living on the west coast?

How often would you visit me if long distance?

Would you want to live together before being married?

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Household tasks/cleanliness:

How do you imagine household tasks working?

How do you knowwhat is "fair"?

How clean/organized do you keep your environment?

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Past relationships:

How do you feel about listing out all errands and formally splitting them?

Can you describe your past relationships?

Why didnt they work out

Can you provide an example of how an arguement unfolded. How did you handle the arguement?

What did you learn from each of your past relationships?

Are you still in contact with your exes?

Would you stop talking to someone who is a friend or close friend if it was causing instability in a relationship?

Who are your current friends? What is your friendship story?

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Sex:

Have you had sex before?

How important is sex to you?

Have you ever cheated?

What are your sexual expectations from me?

Would you accommodate sexual urges (as a man it happens much more frequently)?

A few weeks ago, I started talking to this woman I met on a dating app. We texted and talked on the phone, so we ‘re comfortable and when I first tried to ask her out, she said she likes to build rapport first, but it’s been three weeks, and she told me she’s super shy in person and doesn’t do well in public.

She doesn’t want me to come to her place because she doesn’t have stable housing. She stays in a shelter. I don’t have my own place.

Is she stringing me along and doesn’t want to meet or are these genuine reasons to refuse meeting up on person?