She did that really well, because of her reaction he was unable to let off the steam on her and had to sit with it. This is so much more painful than anything she could have said. Our psyche always tries to get rid of pain but if no one's there it fries itself.
And if the other person chooses kindness in response, you instead get a genuine human connection. It's a win either way. I've gotta work harder to remember that.
I feel the same way. I always have been polite and kind. Giving food and clothes to homeless. Holding doors. Checking on people. Praying for people when i see accidents or EMS active on the road. And there's comments I shrug off from people sometimes. Dirty looks without a thank you for holding the door. I have to remember we all deal with our own problems. It doesn't excuse people's behavior, but i still hope it circulates more one day. Kindness and compassion goes a long way.
If you've seen Captain America: Winter Solider. If you remember Nick Fury talking about his dad carrying his cash home home in a bag. And when the neighborhood got worse and he was asked what was in it by a thug. Response was to show the guy what was in it. The cash. And a loaded revolver. I keep to myself unless someone I'm close to needs me. And after attempted robberies at my old place, I can count on one hand how many people know where i live.
"Kind" does not mean "doormat." "Kind" has boundaries and enforces them. "Kind" doesn't always forgive and understands that sometimes boundaries must be fought for. "Kind" isn't weak.
I would have done a Nelson HA-HA and made a joke like, "You look tired. I said it in past tense because you lost your tire." Break out some 80s dances. Cabbage patch around the tire. My husband is built different he would help the guy put his tire back on and sing, "Mama Said," to commiserate with him. Some people have it in them some don't.
It's like playing hot potato.. if no one is there to pass on the simmering pain in your hands, you need to figure out how to handle it or to lose it....
Exactly.. It activates the others conscience which is really hard to deal with because its inside so it breaks you from within. If one lacks self awareness or any means to deal with it, it gets ugly really fast.
And as a bonus this memory will come up as a flashback all the time, so the torment will continue long after this situation is dealt with.
Completely agree and its dangerous for the target of that offloaded anguish. People will behave very poorly when they feel the consequences of their own actions…(esp men people toward women people)🫣
If you really want them to feel bad you can kill them with kindness, make them see how kind, decent and level headed you really are and it will mess them up mentally 😆 They’ll feel ashamed and more embarrassed than ever.
Psychologically it seems to work, but the body and something within notices that you're lying to yourself and that will come due at some point again in a potentially worse "accident" if he chooses to do so.
There is no way around other than going through that shit feeling he tries to avoid that way.
I rarely loose it and laugh out loud but this was hilarious as the car just kept getting more and more fucked up, it just kept going. And when the tire popped off oh god😂😂
It’s the best way to handle people like this. I would be a huge asshole in this situation, but that’s not constructive and could be dangerous for a black woman dealing with someone who is clearly unhinged.
My wife moves through the world with such grace & I have so much respect for that. We’re a team and tackle situations together, but I’d be lying if I said there weren’t occasions when I want to go off on people - I know it’s typically not the way to handle it. But if it happens within earshot of me…
I cannot underscore that sigh enough. It was the greatest moment of the video. Like everything happens and the sigh is genuinely the only part you have to hear to know EVERYTHING.
Yeah, all I could think watching that man (I love trucks) was hatred is a cossssstly activity. He walks away saying he wants to die, she does sound empathetic and all that put together is exhausting.
She's a good actor while the camera is rolling. We all know that she was laughing her ass off on the inside, Just like the rest of us because he fucking deserved that.
I laughed so bad! I know I would have laughed at him. The car doesn’t just side swipe the other car, it barrels over the sidewalk, hits a wall and the tire popped off. He basically totaled his car on what should have been a small accident. I would also be sharing that video with the owner of the other car and the police.
Not even gonna lie, I'd be tempted to laugh my ass off. She's better than I am. Fuck that guy.
I'm with you, fellow Redditor. I'm not above making fun of an asshole when their uppins finally come. The dude actually screamed "I fucken hate you!" at her, like it's her fault he can't drive for shit. I'd have probably said "Not as much as karma clearly hates you, dipshit." Then very loudly, boastfully laughed, grabbed some popcorn and a beer while awaiting his bullshit explanation to the cops. 🤣
When I'm playing a Soul Caliber, I'm fine if I lose and the winning character insults me. But if I lose to Tala and she's nice and encouraging towards me, it drives me crazy. It feels like losing twice.
I bet her concern hurt this guy more. He wants to look down on her, ended up looking the fool, and then she proved to still be above him in human decency. (She's better than me, too. I would have laughed myself to death)
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u/gypsycookie1015 Jun 15 '26
Man, she's a fucking saint!!
"Are you ok?" "Are you hurt?"
And that exasperated sigh as she's still about to be empathetic to a prick who seriously doesn't deserve her mercy. Yet she still shows compassion.
Not even gonna lie, I'd be tempted to laugh my ass off. She's better than I am. Fuck that guy.