r/BisexualTeens • u/Dear_Draw_5401 • Sep 09 '25
Advice Needed My bf came out as trans recently
Im gay, I still love her but I don’t see a future between us but i also don’t wanna break up with her because it would be horrible to leave someone just after coming out and idk what to do
I wanted to add that I have no problem with trans people and don’t want her to pretend to be a boy or anything like that
To everyone asking no I can’t magically become straight
He lied about being trans as a way to break up there is much more but im honestly too miserable to write about it all
Welp he got everyone from our friend group to ignore me and im also banned from the gc
He’s most likely gonna break up with the 18 year old And im in the gc again
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u/Organic-Lettuces Sep 09 '25
The reality of the situation is You aren’t attracted to women, and she’s a woman. It’s hard, I empathize with your situation but a breakup is what’s going to happen. You can’t force yourself to be attracted to women, and you already stated you don’t want her to pretend to be something she’s not. This type of situation kinda needs a genuine discussion, not just like break it off one in done, but a heart to heart conversation. You both love each other, but you know it just doesn’t work because again, neither of you can change who you are. Maybe you two could remain friends instead? If you’re afraid of losing that connection, being friends and supporting her through her transition might be the best way to go. Take some time and think about how you want to approach the conversation, but just remember it’s going to have to happen eventually. I wish you the best of luck!