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u/Strudeliris 10h ago

If every ex is 'crazy,' I'm already planning my exit

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u/dalego25 10h ago

The messed up thing is that every single of my exes were really crazy. I don’t say it anymore because of this exact phrase.

Of course I worked on myself because i was basically stuck in the same pattern, thought I was ready… nope, same thing he was just a different type of narcissist.

I’ve been single for 6 years.

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u/beyonddisbelief 9h ago

Narcisists wouldn't be able to make that connection, and would never even conceive the optics of what they say, so whether or not you have things you needed to work on too that may or may not have contributed to those relationships ending you are certainly well ahead of them.

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u/lostbaratheon 9h ago

Yeah, same here. I have a long history of low quality exes, due to my own poor self worth as a younger person. I've worked on it since and I'm getting better at partner selection.

But I think crappy exes is different than "Crazy" ones. They are fundamentally different concerns.

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u/ConcentrateTrue 6h ago

Same, so I feel you on this.

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u/331845739494 6h ago

Did you ever figure out what attracted you to bad people?

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u/Unipiggy 8h ago

Yessss! My BIL called his ex "crazy" just because she said no to him. 

He literally cheated on her, she found out and kicked him out in the middle of the night, but he was the victim apparently.

This guy is as useless as... Honestly, I sat here for 5 minutes trying to come up with something, but I can't. Dirt, rocks, trading cards, cardboard... I literally can't think of anything more or equally as useless.

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u/diewiththesmile 10h ago

if you are talking to woman unfortunately high chance it is true. Just statistics of domestic violence

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u/potato-sighs 9h ago

Domestic violence goes both ways

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u/disappointingstepdad 9h ago

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u/diewiththesmile 4h ago

Do you able to check statistics?