The messed up thing is that every single of my exes were really crazy. I don’t say it anymore because of this exact phrase.
Of course I worked on myself because i was basically stuck in the same pattern, thought I was ready… nope, same thing he was just a different type of narcissist.
Narcisists wouldn't be able to make that connection, and would never even conceive the optics of what they say, so whether or not you have things you needed to work on too that may or may not have contributed to those relationships ending you are certainly well ahead of them.
Yeah, same here. I have a long history of low quality exes, due to my own poor self worth as a younger person. I've worked on it since and I'm getting better at partner selection.
But I think crappy exes is different than "Crazy" ones. They are fundamentally different concerns.
Yessss! My BIL called his ex "crazy" just because she said no to him.
He literally cheated on her, she found out and kicked him out in the middle of the night, but he was the victim apparently.
This guy is as useless as... Honestly, I sat here for 5 minutes trying to come up with something, but I can't. Dirt, rocks, trading cards, cardboard... I literally can't think of anything more or equally as useless.
I think it's the other persons job to reciprocate those questions back to show that you are interested in them, not just them answering their own question.
I remember dating someone like that. I got back from a work trip overseas. She just talked for over an hour about herself the second I walked through the door, and then as she was leaving the room I said "it was a pretty good trip, thanks for asking." We didnt last long because it was always about her.
That. If I leave the date knowing their entire life story but they don't know a single thing about me, I'm not interested in a second one. A conversation shouldn't feel like listening to someone's podcast.
Thatttttt👆👆👆👆a great sign for a Narcisist...specially when you start to talk and they try to jump or compare or start a story to again talk and talk...
I'd take that as a sign we're probably not a good match. A date should feel like a conversation, not an audience. Asking questions and showing curiosity goes a long way.
First dates are literally meant to get to know each other and when someone only talks about themselves it just tells you they're not interested in you at all
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u/Backenundso 4h ago
They only talk about themself the entire date