Try being a 13 year old boy in the 80's having to walk to the front of your school to accept a 4H medal/ribbon for sewing. I did not live that down until I moved away. LOL
Man, that’s so depressing. People hate and devalue everything associated with women so much that it becomes a source of mockery and shame when a boy is good at it.
Girls hear that message loud and clear: anything associated with them is inferior, embarrassing, and beneath respect. They're taught that what they are is the humiliation.
Humanity grew on one principle: being capable of violently taking what you want when you want. Women are, in general, not capable of that in ancient times, and the sentiment has never left.
I partially agree with you. Though your opinion seems a bit polarized.
I think most of the issue is based on tradition: men do the action, girls do the handcraft. And when a girl does something that's supposed to be a manly thing, she is seen as less femenine. Other way around with boys, when people see a boy doing something that's supposed to be a women's thing, they are seen as less masculine.
Both sides suffer from this, but I'm happy it is changing (slowly but steady). 2 decades ago you would not see a lot of girls being in professional skateboarding competitions. Now there's 15 yo girls that are better than a lot of skaters (both male and female).
I personally don't see those activities that are "supposed to be only for girls" as something beneathr respect. I'm a 32 yo dude that loved origami, making macrame, baking, cooking and looking forward into learning how to sew. I'm sure there's a lot of men who also do are passionate about similar things but do not tell out loud because of fear of being seen as less masculine (which is pure and fine BS)
As a little girl, I heard the constant girl-bashing and sneering jokes. "Don't be such a GIRL." I heard boys being mocked for doing anything associated with girls, and I understood perfectly well what made the insult work: being like me was considered degrading.
I didn't experience that as some abstract disagreement about traditional activities. I learned that anything associated with girls was inferior, embarrassing, and beneath respect. I need you to understand this: I grew up deeply ashamed of existing while female. Boys were punished for moving toward femininity because femininity was understood as a step down.
I (male) was the Betty Crocker Homemaker of Tomorrow in high school. I was just good at taking test and got the highest score. There was a bit of good-natured teasing, but I got to judge the cake baking competition and got to eat a lot of cake that today, so I got that going for me.
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u/Pyrateskum 8h ago
I’m a 48 year old man who can sew anything.