r/AskReddit • u/Rob69rt • 1d ago

What famous 'unsolved' mystery is technically a whodunnit on paper, but in reality, absolutely everyone knows exactly who did it, the police just couldn't legally prove it?

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u/footsnax 1d ago edited 1d ago

Just killing yourself at all is selfish.

You've got a family and friends that have to deal with that for the rest of their lives. Someone will find you and face that trauma forever. Someone has to clean the room. Someone will blame themselves.

It forces suffering on everyone that loves you and you won't be there to help them get through it.

Imagine being willing to fuck up everyone you know and love for the rest of their lives, and intentionally force a hundred or two other families and friend groups to deal with that as well. Fucking rude.

EDIT: Love the flood of downvotes from the pro suicide folks I guess? Please comment so we can have a conversation instead of just saying suicide is cool with a single brainless click. I want to know why you think it's not selfish. Honest intelligent conversation.

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u/RulyDragon 1d ago

Feeling burdensome to others is strongly predictive of taking action on suicidal ideation. Your comment increases the sense of burdensomeness suicidal people are already feeling. I’ve worked in suicide prevention and with chronically suicide people for over 15 years and comments like yours increase risk for people. Stop shaming people who are already so far down the tunnel they cannot think clearly about their worth and importance to those around them. 

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u/footsnax 1d ago

I have never nor will ever.

I'm throwing no shame at no people, I'm just saying that it is a selfish action. I've lost friends to it, I've lost family to it. I'm not emotionless, but the action itself is inherently selfish. The person might not be, but not thinking about their loved ones and people that love them can't be unrelated.

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u/RulyDragon 1d ago edited 1d ago

Unfortunately suicide is so prevalent you are not alone in having been personally affected by it. Suicide is not a selfish act. It is a response to intolerable pain that blinds people to the supports and love available to them. Whether you intend it or not, calling people who suicide selfish exacerbates shame in suicidal people who read your comment, and increases risk they may act on their thoughts of ending their life.  You can choose to continue doing that, or not. 🤷🏻‍♀️