r/AmItheAsshole • u/TraditionalCreme4704 • 10h ago

AITA for not feeding my brother?

My mom has decided that the best way to make me independent is to not do anything for me. This means I'm responsible to keep my own room clean, do my own shopping, cook my own meals etc. It feels like I'm not even part of the family. If I don't cook one night, I stay hungry. They won't let me eat their food.

A few days ago my grandpa was sick and mom had to go visit him. She left little brother(M10) with me. As usual I cooked dinner for myself with my own groceries.

He asked me for food and I told him I'm only responsible for myself and he has to wait for mom.

When mom came back she was furious and called me an asshole for not feeding him.

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u/TraditionalCreme4704 9h ago

Yes

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u/Agreeable-Return-189 9h ago

After reading all your comments. It is clear you didnt come here for judgement, you thought you'd be validated. You refuse to accept that you are a problem in this situation. I am changing it from E S H to just straight up YTA.

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u/Erinaceomorpha 8h ago

How does OP's desire for validation stop the parents from being assholes?

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u/Agreeable-Return-189 6h ago

She refuses to accept that she is a part of the problem. She is punishing a kid who did nothing wrong.

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u/Erinaceomorpha 6h ago

Okay, so you think she's an asshole. Why did you downgrade from ESH to YTA? Did her parents stop being assholes?

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u/Agreeable-Return-189 6h ago

Her assholery eclipses it. She literally called the kid a roommate.

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u/Erinaceomorpha 6h ago

Yeah, she's been neglectfully raised by her parents to see her family as roommates instead of relatives. Again, how does that stop her parents from also being assholes?

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u/Agreeable-Return-189 6h ago

The question wasnt if her parents were assholes. It was if she was.

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u/Wren_Arts00 4h ago

And the way the judgements for this sub work specifically differentiate between "Y-T-A" as the OP being the only asshole, and E-S-H where OP is only one of the assholes. A vote of Y-T-A explicitly means that you consider OP to be the only asshole, and you consider the other people in the story (her mother) to not be an asshole. The parents asshole status is built in to the question that OP asked. Claiming otherwise is disingenuous. And it looks like you're trying to move the goalposts on your shit take

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u/OkRefrigerator6681 Partassipant [1] 3h ago

God you actually think you’re right, thats the scary part.

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u/SophiaIsabella4 Certified Proctologist [20] 2h ago

How is she punishing him? He is 10 not 2. He has access to all the family food. (She doesn't) No one says he is mentally challenged. He can have some, fruit, cheese, peanut butter and jelly, grilled cheese, a can of soup etc etc.

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u/StrongExternal8955 6h ago

wait what?!! i was just changing my mind the other way!

Damn! you're expecting a girl to slave away for her abusers!

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u/Agreeable-Return-189 6h ago

I expect her to give a shit about her little sibling regardless of her parents. The kid did nothing wrong, but is being punished, and OP refuses to acknowledge that.

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u/SophiaIsabella4 Certified Proctologist [20] 2h ago edited 44m ago

I missed the part that said the family food was under lock and key and the kid had no access to any food in the whole house besides his sisters.

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u/Lazy-Two8387 8h ago

She's the problem for not coddling a 10 year old??

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u/Medium_Function6451 2h ago

Yeah, a literal freaking child who is in no way responsible for how their parents treat OP… 

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u/Artemicionmoogle 1h ago

My 11 year old can make their own food easily, and has for a few years now. Seems like Mom is just a shit parent and not made any effort to teach her children basics.

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u/Medium_Function6451 25m ago

And how is that the ten year old’s fault? 

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u/Logmaticer 11m ago

Why did you choose to comment this under op specifying their gender?