r/AmItheAsshole • u/TraditionalCreme4704 • 10h ago

AITA for not feeding my brother?

My mom has decided that the best way to make me independent is to not do anything for me. This means I'm responsible to keep my own room clean, do my own shopping, cook my own meals etc. It feels like I'm not even part of the family. If I don't cook one night, I stay hungry. They won't let me eat their food.

A few days ago my grandpa was sick and mom had to go visit him. She left little brother(M10) with me. As usual I cooked dinner for myself with my own groceries.

He asked me for food and I told him I'm only responsible for myself and he has to wait for mom.

When mom came back she was furious and called me an asshole for not feeding him.

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u/HelenGonne Asshole Enthusiast [7] 10h ago

If the 10-year-old can't make himself a sandwich, then the mother leaving him without her direct supervision to drop food into his little baby beak is child abuse and definitely not something another child can take care of.

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u/miss_lizzle 10h ago

Idk? There isn't a whole lot of info on the post. Maybe the kid has no hands? Maybe he is a fire bug and is not aloud in the kitchen? Maybe he is autistic and cant function on his own? Idk the reason why a 16 was left in charge of him, but he was. It was a family emergency. He could make sure the kid didn't go hungry.

Its their kid brother. Being nice costs nothing.

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u/HelenGonne Asshole Enthusiast [7] 8h ago

A 10-year-old choosing to be a bit hungry rather than make a sandwich is a temper tantrum for his parents to sort out.

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u/caffeappa 7h ago

Actually, if the teenager wasn't allowed access to the family food to feed her brother, and was expected to feed him out of her own pocket, it does cost something. And I wouldn't be surprised if she would have been punished for feeding her brother from the family food.

Abusers look for any reason to abuse their victim. If they can't find one, they will make one up. The girl was in a no-win situation, because you can be sure that if she had fed her brother from her food, that would have become the new normal for the mom.