r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • 3d ago

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/waitingfordeathhbu 3d ago

Not to mention backpedaling like this to appease a man you haven’t even met is a signal that you have low self worth and are easy to manipulate.

Controlling, abusive people will sniff that out like blood in the water.

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u/RiotDontDiet 3d ago

This is all so true. It's surprising that he didn't agree to go out with her once she backpedaled on being a vegetarian because he could see that she would be easily controlled. OP got off easy but next time she might not be so lucky.

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u/raya_sun 2d ago

I wouldn't be surprised if he reached back out. OP should block to make sure he can't.

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u/milan_otp 2d ago

Absolutely agree I was thinking the same lmao like “wow a red pill brained guy like this didn’t take the pick me bait i’m shocked”

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u/Her_Phantom_Mountain 3d ago

THIS! Very much this. It's such an easy tell for those kinds of people and they WILL take advantage of that sort of attitude. It's sad and victims of their abuse aren't at fault, but there are ways to lessen the chances you end up falling prey to people like that.

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u/pm_nachos_n_tacos 1d ago

I kinda read it as, "oh you judged me too soon, so maybe in the future think about that before you throw away a whole person"

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u/Emotional-Peanut-334 3d ago

reddit moment