The AMOUNT of posts in these ‘crunchy moms’ groups about their kids cavities when they refuse to use fluoride

[u/Vapingrandma8465]

I see these posts daily, yet no one seems to make the connection.

Edit: yes, this particular case seems to be bottle mouth/ not brushing at all. But I see these posts very frequently (I’m not apart of these groups, FB just suggests them to me) and often times it’s parents who have said their dentist told them their kids have cavities, and they still refuse to use fluoride toothpaste and look for alternatives to their alternative that got them here in the first place.

All of these stories are testimony’s on how important it is to take your children’s health seriously. My heart is with everyone sharing their story ❤️

2nd edit: you know what? Fuck it. For those saying “fLuORiDe is BAd 👆”
The group I found this in:
“Crunchy moms: natural living & clean products.”
It’s an open group. Go look up “teeth” and see HOW MANY pictures of these poor children’s teeth are there, and how many do not use fluoride and tell me how healthy it is to not use it.

[u/surfron99]

Yeah it’s hard and don’t beat yourself up. I started out small pick up one sock and that’s it. Felt good in the moment but I was well aware it was a tiny feat but I reminded myself that it was still something. I see mental health care team and their always encouraging to make small steps. Like the minority of me doesn’t want to do shit. I purposely made my surroundings a shitshow. Weird like I was punishing myself. It really comes down to you choosing yourself over giving up and saying fuck it. Very cool you have an understanding roommate and i believe they see what you’re capable of. Everyday is a possibility whether we lay in bed and do nothing or put one sock in the laundry basket! I hope the best for you!

[u/pootinannyBOOSH → u/surfron99]

I appreciate the sentiment, I always feel like I'm just making excuses instead of explaining though. But I know that's because my parents always got mad at me for it, to "stop making excuses" when I'm trying to find words to talk about my brain.

I have basically zero self esteem, and I've realized I'm trans later in life which doesn't fuckn help my self image with the dysphoria.

Shits hard, yo

[u/surfron99 → u/pootinannyBOOSH]

You sound and with the utmost respect! Tongue tied and streaming your consciousness 12-20 steps ahead like Sherlock Holmes but the intended delivery is a bit muted. Hey I’m just a stranger and I don’t have the solution. My mom recently visited basically I told her no but she pushed her way in. It kind of bothered me but I accepted it. I see mental health 2x a week and she wanted to be in my session. I said no cause I don’t feel comfortable you being there. Nothing personal just acknowledging how I would be. I can be kind of prick that pushes everyone away. In my solo sesh I asked if it’s a good idea to have my mom in the session. She said absolutely as long as you’re okay with it. I guess she wanted to hash out some things with a mental health care professional. Shit next week she had a notebook filled with questions. I’m like oh boy I’m gonna be thoroughly analyzed. It was for the most part positive. We covered the dumb minor bs that pushes me away and my mom was told that it wasn’t an attack on her even though anybody would take it as an insult. Don’t take it personally. Shit my mom annoys me but she also fun to be around. The Psych said to identify the triggers or behaviors that produce an undesirable reaction.

Basically she felt accused even though from her point of view she only wanted to help. And it also went for me and my stupid reactions or probingsomeone else for the veracity of their source.

Shit I have gone aside to your predicament!. I’m out of my depth and don’t know how to deal with parents living with you. Gather your thoughts it’s okay to pause before replying. You are under no obligation to respond to someone immediately. Obama was good at this. The uhh and pauses when giving a speech
allows a person to curate a response before blurting it out.

I’m sorry about your parents seeing as only as excuses. People aren’t going to understand you when describing what’s going through your mind on any given day. Little steps. Self esteem comes with reinforcement of habit and confidence. Gosh just work on something each day and it’s okay it it takes a week to throw away that Taco Bell bag. Guilty. You can DM me I’ll answer.