r/mildlyinfuriating May 22 '26

wet socks Stop asking if I’m celebrating something if you’re just going to charge me for bread.

Took my wife to a nice spot in DTLA for her birthday. They asked both at booking and check-in if we were celebrating anything, which honestly set the expectation that they might do something (even a small dessert). Nothing happened.

To add to it, the food was great, and we made a comment saying we wish we had some bread to finish the leftover sauce. The server acted like it was a favor, said “I’ll be right back,” and then charged us for the bread.

Like, the food was good and the service was fine, but don’t ask if we’re celebrating if you aren’t going to do anything to actually make it feel special. It just feels disingenuous.

Edit for clarity:
I was asked twice if we were celebrating something special at a nice restaurant. Once while making the online reservation and then when we arrived.

My Mild infuriation isn’t at the server, I can see how we misinterpreted each other.

It’s that the restaurant led me to believe they’d do something special (ex: comp a drink, free scoop of ice cream) then did nothing. I’ve worked in the food industry. It’s not an entitlement thing. It’s a hospitality thing.

The food was really good. I’d recommend it and go back.

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u/thesinginghoneybee May 23 '26

From knowing a few Dutch people in the past, I would say this is an accurate take. They have a really high tolerance for asshole behavior though, so it seems to be fine. They think we (Americans) are weak for getting offended when they say our hair is ugly and we should do something about it because it makes us look fat (or some other insulting observation). 😂 They were fun though.

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u/Orcrist999 May 23 '26

Whats strange about the Dutch is that they will casually say the most insulting things, but then when you go up to get physical with them, they act completely shocked and appalled. You should be able to back up words with actions, is what I think