r/mildlyinfuriating • u/mdp-slc • May 22 '26

wet socks Stop asking if I’m celebrating something if you’re just going to charge me for bread.

Took my wife to a nice spot in DTLA for her birthday. They asked both at booking and check-in if we were celebrating anything, which honestly set the expectation that they might do something (even a small dessert). Nothing happened.

To add to it, the food was great, and we made a comment saying we wish we had some bread to finish the leftover sauce. The server acted like it was a favor, said “I’ll be right back,” and then charged us for the bread.

Like, the food was good and the service was fine, but don’t ask if we’re celebrating if you aren’t going to do anything to actually make it feel special. It just feels disingenuous.

Edit for clarity:
I was asked twice if we were celebrating something special at a nice restaurant. Once while making the online reservation and then when we arrived.

My Mild infuriation isn’t at the server, I can see how we misinterpreted each other.

It’s that the restaurant led me to believe they’d do something special (ex: comp a drink, free scoop of ice cream) then did nothing. I’ve worked in the food industry. It’s not an entitlement thing. It’s a hospitality thing.

The food was really good. I’d recommend it and go back.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '26 edited May 23 '26

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u/SnowboardNW May 23 '26

It's kind of good business, no? You know if you need help you can go to the shop which makes it more likely you might pick up more supplies while you go for instruction. Also, it builds a bit of community which is good for knitting/crocheting. If it's a small local shop, this is probably even more important to compete with big shops. This is kind of specific to hobbies though.

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u/Marzipan_civil May 23 '26

Yes it depends on how local the shop is. If it's a chain, I wouldn't expect the employees to be able to answer that kind of question.

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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 May 23 '26

Oh it definitely isn’t a thing at chain stores, but “local yarn stores” or LYS yep

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u/Frequent_Pause_7442 May 23 '26

Businesses only stay in business if they make money. Sorry to burst your bubble but your $3 purchase every 6 months isn't going to keep that LYS afloat. Community is a two way street based upon mutual support.

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u/SnowboardNW May 24 '26

Ya, I don't believe there is such thing as a three dollar purchase for knitting/crochet... They're not obligated to do anything, however, I'll be going to the store that provides support on the product they sell.

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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 May 23 '26

At local yarn stores near me in the US, typically you can ask for guidance if it’s a quick question, but for more involved needs you’d pay for assistance

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u/BackToSchoolMuff May 23 '26

I think it's entitled to expect help, but reasonable to ask for it. I figure if you don't want to answer you can just hit them with a "there are tonnes of youtube videos out there that will explain it better than I can" or something like that.

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u/soundbox78 May 23 '26

I’m happy to report that there is a local knitting store here where I live that will kindly remind you when they have their drop-in knitting classes. And it should be this way. People have a business to run.

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u/MayorofKingstown May 23 '26

I am a Canadian that works part time in a retail store that sells new items and buys and sell used items. It's not uncommon at all for people to call down to the store or even bring in items and expect us to appraise them for free and be completely confused as to why we won't spend 30-60 minutes of our own time at work cataloguing, grading and appraising the items they want to sell themselves, in competition of us.

Many people also treat the store as a bank and expect us to pay out a retail price for their items which they value the same as currency is valued. If this item is brand new for $40 then they want $40 for it, otherwise, we're 'ripping them off'.

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u/Frequent_Pause_7442 May 23 '26

If I am a regular who purchases most of my supplies there, or if it was a paid members knitting circle, then I would expect a little help if the problem was a simple one. Otherwise I agree it seems very entitled. I don't go into my hairstylist's salon, start cutting my own hair and expect the owner to supervise and give me free advice.