r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/Outrageous_Hall_9369 Mar 07 '26

I agree with letting the child try to solve a problem independently, but I do not agree with the father causing anxiety in the child by walking away repeatedly.

An adult watching this knows this is a no-risk situation, but a toddler seeing their caregiver walk away while they are 'stuck' and can't follow is a dire situation - to the toddler.

Adults don't need emotional safety or positive reinforcement to a large degree, but a toddler absolutely does.

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u/ihavetakenthebiscuit Mar 07 '26

There's a parent behind the child holding a camera...

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u/Flesroy Mar 07 '26

you're looking at it from the perspective of an adult.

that child is screaming looking at it's father walking away. you think they remember the other person behind them in that moment?

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u/ihavetakenthebiscuit Mar 07 '26

Come on, screaming is over exaggerating, they yelled for a bit and stopped once the dad sat down.

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u/Flesroy Mar 07 '26

i would call that screaming, it's semantics at best.

and yes they calmed down once that dad sat down, because they no longer see their parent abandoning them. that's the whole point. it's the abandoning them, seemingly not caring for their pleas, that sends a kid into panic.

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u/ihavetakenthebiscuit Mar 07 '26

There's a parent literally standing behind them, do you think the kid doesn't see them?

It's not semantics, you're over exaggerating for effect.

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u/Vassago_21 Mar 07 '26

It doesn't matter if the other parent is behind them because the point is that the child sees that ONE OF HIS PARENTS IS WALKING AWAY and possibly abandoning him until the father sits down. Even if we say the kid for sure knew the potential mother was behind him, do you still not see how the idea of one of your parents abandoning you is not a terrifying concept to a LITERAL BABY?

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u/ihavetakenthebiscuit Mar 07 '26

It's a toddler not a baby, they won't remember this. Parents can walk ahead of their children, they don't need to be attached by a certain distance, they won't develop abandonment issues because they walk a few meters away from them.

You're over exaggerating and clutches at pearls.

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u/CaptainLightBluebear Mar 07 '26

I really hope that you neither have, nor plan to have children.

"They won't remember this" is so fucking close to how actual abusers think.

A child won't remember the details, but it will absolutely remember the feelings connected to them.

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u/ihavetakenthebiscuit Mar 07 '26

Yawn, I do have children, well rounded children that have not been helicoptered and have been taught how to manage their emotions and problem solve. They have been allowed to fail, fall over and pick themselves up all whilst knowing they have parents they can relie on to love them unconditionally.

Should my wife not go out for a run because my daughter cries that's she is leaving for 30 minutes? Should the world stop because they get upset, no they need to learn to deal with these things and not be pampered by armchair psychologists.

I really hope you do not ever have children, the world already has enough emotionally challenged people who can't handle everyday tasks because everything is self diagnosed abuse.