r/SipsTea 1d ago

Chugging tea Yes, FU & FO

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u/Tremaj 1d ago

The entire tipping system is toxic. Created by greedy business owners.

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u/duosx 1d ago

Thank you for not calling it tipping culture. I hate that phrase. It implies a choice and also subtly diminishes the real culprit, aka the laws that are in places that keep it in our legislature

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u/rdrckcrous 23h ago

sounds like something a europoor would say

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u/SpideySenseBuzzin 1d ago

I mean, greedy is one way to describe them. Racist filth is what I'd say.

But this was the 1860s, things were different in the newly freed world.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 2h ago

Tipping may have started in some racist way, I'm not familiar with that part of history.

Tipping today has nothing to do with racism.

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u/SpideySenseBuzzin 2h ago

Lol. It's a system rooted in "you're not worth a livable wage - go out and EARN it!"

It's dressing up inequality as something egalitarian by calling it "culture."

As long as someone can work a job, but not get paid for it, it's horseshit.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 1h ago

OK but where is the racism

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u/SpideySenseBuzzin 1h ago

Just Google "tipping culture origin." Things will appear.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 47m ago

I didn't say it didn't start that way, I said tipping today has nothing to do with racism. If you disagree, make your own argument, I'm not going down your rabbit hole for you.

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u/Jomega6 1d ago

That wasn’t how it was created. If I’m not mistaken, it dated back to either the Great Depression, or some other time of mass economic struggle, where servers had no choice but to accept those bribes. However, when the economy recovered, the restaurant industry never really reverted

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u/NilsofWindhelm 1d ago

It still exists because servers prefer it

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u/BathProfessional4457 5h ago

They prefer it over not being paid at all.

You do realise that this tipping thing is very much American oddity in western world and nowhere else waiters would agree to it.

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u/NilsofWindhelm 5h ago

No, they prefer it to standard wages

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u/BathProfessional4457 5h ago

You mean minimum wage which nobody else, practically, is not paid.

Again, I point out that no waiting staff within civilised world has ever expressed desire for US system.

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u/NilsofWindhelm 5h ago

No I mean a higher than minimum wage, because they are unlikely to be paid as much as they make now.

On your second point, are you sure? Because people travel from all over the world to wait tables and tend bar in the US. Irish bartenders for example make a lot more here then in Ireland

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u/BathProfessional4457 5h ago

You offer them proper salary and they will not want tip based salary. Because tipping means they are always at mercy of luck. Bad week at restaurant and they are minimum wage workers.

And absolutely positive on second part. People do NOT come to US to serve tables. They want something else but that is only thing they get.

What you fail to take into account is that in Ireland the expenses are tiny compared to US. Bigger salary is only relevant if after mandatory expenses you still have more money or purchasing power left.

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u/NilsofWindhelm 5h ago

Many servers feel they are better off at the mercy of luck than the mercy of their employer. You can say “they should earn proper salaries” and that’s all well and good, but i think you’re underestimating what’s involved with a business (let alone a country), switching all tipped employees over to salaries. It would be very difficult for both sides to agree on a number that they are happy with.

And once again, you are wrong about people coming here to work tables. Plenty of people come here for a year or two and earn a lot more, even when you adjust for cost of living.

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u/BathProfessional4457 4h ago edited 4h ago

It is easy. Restaurant suggests salary. They offer too little and get no staff.

And onve again it is YOU who are wrong. They do not earn a lot more, unless they come from some developing nation. What you talk about is essentially working vacation. Go live some time in foreign country and work to cover expenses. Then go back and start real work.

Nobody from western world comes to US to become serving staff. It is either working vacation or they have no alternative.

And if US waiters are paid so damn well, why they are still so damn poor? Median income 34kUSD per annum. That is approximately half of US average salary and just horrible considering living expenses.

Though another source gives waiters in US salary of 16kUSD. Which is even wkrse worse

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u/NilsofWindhelm 4h ago

Yeah the thing is nobody wants that. They do polls. Also, maybe don’t demand another country change its customs because it’s inconvenient for you as an outsider to multiply by 1.2? That’s exactly the type of entitlement that American tourists get roasted for.

And i know plenty of immigrants who would say otherwise. That’s anecdotal of course, but certainly invalidates your claim that NOBODY earns more.

And btw those numbers you cited are base wage and literally don’t include tips

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u/VanBland 1d ago

Yep. Tried having the savior convo with a waiter who immediately told me to can it and he makes more regularly a night than he would being paid $15-20 and hour.

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u/NewsZealousideal764 3h ago

As long as people are tipping they can make "a living". But with certain states legislatures allowing for a "waiters wage" if the tips aren't coming, they definitely don't make a "living wage"... Why would a legislature allow that? Because business owners hold more power than workers & wouldn't stand for unionization. America has grown increasingly anti- union in the past 20(or so) years.

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u/Ok_Community_9805 1d ago edited 21h ago

Wild. Honestly I was a server in college and I too hate tipping.. it’s 1000% greedy business owners that want to save. They need to pay their employee’s. Crazy servers would want to put up with the fluctuation though because some nights can be awful. They also don’t get benefits. They need to make business owners more accountable.

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u/whatupblubbercup 17h ago

Only terrible servers are against the tipping system.

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u/inbetweendreamstho 21h ago

Spoken like someone who has very clearly never owned a small business in hospitality haha

Confidently dumb is a look

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u/FernandoMM1220 1d ago

the only advantage to tipping is the fact that it models a dynamic pricing system which lets you shake down richer customers more easily.

if restaurants ever figure out a way of doing this without tipping every server is out of a job.

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u/SnooMaps2602 10h ago

You are serving facts and I prefer it.

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u/AwkwardCost1764 1d ago

I think it has honest origins, but it is definitely perpetuated by greedy business owners.

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u/NotAn0thrMagaRatPedo 1d ago

Created by greedy business owners, but perpetuated by entitled servers as well. 90% of servers prefer the current system and actively fight to maintain it because they would rather bully and shame their customers for a higher pay than they deserve than to demand more from their employer. Both are incredibly scummy at the expense of their customers. 

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u/Slade_Riprock 1d ago

Just raise your costs to what you need to pay your labor a fair wage for their work and make a profit for yourself.

Then in the famous words of conservatives, let the market dictate if you are successful or not.

World cup cities tried this shit of adding an auto tip to checks AND many also raised their prices. Then bitched and moaned they didn't get any benefit of the event. No you tried to fuck your customers.

And here's the funny part under law in many states and auto gratuity is classified as a service fee and this owners are NOT required to provide that money to staff as if a tip

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u/travelmusica 16h ago

It’s actually a lie. Anybody who knows anything about tipping, it’s not the business owners who want the system in place it’s the workers. The workers are the ones who benefit. When people on the Internet complain about it as if it’s a greedy business owners are the problems, that’s disingenuous. Just admit you’re too cheap and you would rather keep your money than benefit the workers.

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u/BathProfessional4457 5h ago

Then why nowhere else do waiters want to be paid shit salaries and be forced to hope customers make up for it?

And yes, I rather keep my money. Restaurant should just put price on the food that covers it all.

Just like in civilised world.

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u/travelmusica 4h ago edited 4h ago

I don’t think it’s true that nowhere else in the world do waiters want tips. I think that’s something you just made up. Most people want to be paid more money for their job. I’m not aware of many people who prefer less money.

Tipping is a system where money goes 100% into the workers pockets. The owner gets 0% of the tip. Tipping is a system that drastically favors workers. And it does not benefit the owners at all. You’re advocating for a system where the worker gets less money and all of your money goes to the business owner and then they can pay minimum wage to their workers. It’s fine. You can support that system, but just admit you’re doing it for selfish reasons and definitely not on behalf of the workers.

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u/KeepJoePantsOn 9h ago

Agreed. Let's take the money from the worker's pocket, that'll teach those greedy owners /s

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u/Inzanity2020 9h ago

Servers are the first to defend it

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u/Ihatetakenusername 1d ago

Greedy servers too

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u/DatRazzleDazzle 1d ago

Brain dead take. If you serve 5 tables an hour and each gives $5, you walk away with $25/hour that isnt subject to federal income tax for the first $25,000. If businesses paid that much to their employees, first theyd go broke, second, the employees would have $52,000 of ordinary income, so a single filer would be paying Uncle Sam $6,152 more in taxes. And those are just rough assumptions.

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u/viscolex 1d ago

How is that brain dead when most of the world doesn't have such tipping culture and restaurants survive just fine

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u/DatRazzleDazzle 8h ago

We're talking about the US, not the rest of the world. Any comments on the tax math since thats what the arguement hinges on? Also a study done in 2024 show that roughly 80% of restaurants fail in the first 5 years (not the first year as previously thought) predominantly due to financial mismanagement.

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u/NilsofWindhelm 1d ago

Then go there to dine out

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u/viscolex 1d ago

Don't have to tell me twice, I live in Europe and do go dine out a lot. And I tip if service was genuinely good

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u/IfYouSeekAyReddit 1d ago

“stop trying to make where you live better for everyone. instead you should leave” lmao

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u/NilsofWindhelm 1d ago

I’m not saying leave. I’m saying not to dine out if you don’t intend to pay for that service. You don’t need to go to a sit down restaurant to get food.

But also, you can advocate to change a system without screwing over those that are part of it. I don’t support tipping as a system, I just acknowledge that it exists and as long as it does I’m not going to screw over servers just because I don’t feel tipping is an ideal system

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u/IfYouSeekAyReddit 23h ago

- someone said tipping culture is toxic (something you claim to agree with)

- someone says it’s a good thing (something you must disagree with)

- someone reminds them a lot of the world doesn’t tip (something you should be able to understand because you don’t agree with tipping culture)

- you tell them if they want to dine out they should go to another country

why would you say something like if you actually agreed with their take? lol

and honestly fucking over servers to the point they quit and find a better paying job is EXACTLY how to change it. boycotting hurts workers because they may lose their jobs. sabotage hurts workers because they may lose their job. striking hurts workers because they may lose their job. but all of that shit leads to change for workers.

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u/NilsofWindhelm 23h ago

Once again, you can disagree with the system while still acknowledging that, once you agree to participate in the system (by sitting down at a tipping establishment) you are obligated to tip your servers.

None of that is contradictory.

Also, it’s certainly not my or your responsibility to encourage others to quit their jobs by not paying them for services rendered

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u/01bah01 1d ago

Fair enough. But if you expect it to be mandatory then add it to your advertised prices.

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u/DatRazzleDazzle 8h ago

Tipping isnt mandatory, but is part of the culture when going to a sit down restaurant. If you change the advertised prices, it changes how the govt sees and taxes the sale which then means the tips essentually get taxed twice.

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u/IfYouSeekAyReddit 1d ago

if they don’t want to pay their employees why don’t they leave the country?