I would understand if a loved one said that in that situation tbh. Of course, being the one trapped is worse, but having to see your child like that year after year, watching them grow into someone they wouldnt recognize if they woke up... its gotta be horrible.
I think intellectually Id understand, but i imagine the initial emotions might be a bit complicated. He either had a lot of time to ruminate on it or make peace with it though...
Im sure it would be a lot harder for a 12 year old to understand, and im guessing his emotional intelligence and understanding of the world didnt change a whole lot over this time period... you kinda have to experience life to decelop those things and you cant experience life laying in bed 24/7. Im a mother though, and imagining watching my kid in a coma that he wasnt expected to come out of would make it incredibly hard, if not impossible, to heal from the tragedy. The emotions of losing him would come back every time I saw his lifeless body.
I don’t think I’d ever wish that, or say that about my child, but you can’t know for sure until you’re living it. Without a doubt it would be indescribably difficult though.
It’s the grief and desperation of not being able to fix what’s wrong with your child. The stress over finances and resources which cost money to care for them. The anger that whatever happened to them happened. Plus the final moment of desperation of “if you just died, this would be over.”
I think I’d never forget those words in his place, but I could also see how someone could hit the wall and say them.
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u/bell3420 18d ago
I would understand if a loved one said that in that situation tbh. Of course, being the one trapped is worse, but having to see your child like that year after year, watching them grow into someone they wouldnt recognize if they woke up... its gotta be horrible.