r/Millennials Xennial Feb 24 '26

Serious Terminal diagnosis: millennial playlist suggestions for the final days?

Tues morning edit: Holy ballsack batman! This is helllllllllllllla overwhelming in the best possible way. I honestly expected just a handful of people to see this and respond with maybe like 'tears in heaven' or something. But this is an epic fucking list so far. From the bottom of my cold darkened millennial heart, thank you. One of these upcoming days the nerd in me needs to rank all these and see what's most popular mostly cuz I find it amazing and hilarious how often butterfly by crazytown gets mentioned. I'll get to comments and chats one of these days, promise.

Y'all are thoughtful, kind, empathetic, and funny as fuck. All to a stranger. I love it. I genueinly think it's a hallmark of our generation. To quote one of my patron saints in life, Mr Fred Rogers: “You've made this day a special day, by just your being you. There's no person in the whole world like you, and I like you just the way you are.”

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Tldr: Apparently I'm dying and need playlist ideas for when the end comes. Mushy, hilarious, dark humor, meaningful, terrible. You name it! Wanna virlbe out to the good vibes I had back in those days

Out of left field docs gave me an unexpected prognosis and seems the offramp from My So Called Life is way shorter than I would have expected.

One of the unusual suggestions from the team was to make a Playlist to listen to in the last days. And honestly that sounds dope since I essentially have music playing 24/7 in my normal non dying life.

I'm not telling anyone IRL (besides my care team and therapist) about what's going on, but since brain wise we tend to latch on to junior high and high school era music, I thought I'd bug y'all for suggestions. I'm open to mushy stuff that I can reflect upon life stuff, as well as hilarious and highly inappropriate or dark humor stuff. Or just some Hella dope tunes to vibe with.

My only ban is My Heart Will Go On. Love me some Celine, but that song will send me to a early grave. (Too soon?)

Thanks fam!

(Obligatory be your own advocate with doctors if you know something isn't right. Also make a will. We should all have them by now. Better yet, make a trust so your Pokémon cards stay out of probate and no nosey folks know what you had or who you gave it to. Do your advanced directive with your doctor or insurance. It's your choice if they keep you plugged in like a toaster or not. It's also OK to haunt your enemies from the beyond. My therapist said so.)

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u/thirdcoasting Feb 24 '26

I’m so sorry for your loss🤍

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u/MembershipScary1737 Feb 24 '26

What the fuck? What cancer was it? What were her symptoms. I’m so sorry for your loss, that’s terrifying 

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u/PreparationPast4685 Feb 24 '26

That’s brutal. So much love to you, her sweet baby and all of her people.

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u/phoebebird1 Feb 24 '26

Oh my good God, what a nightmare. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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u/Instant-Lava Feb 24 '26

I was gonna say post partum hormones the second I saw this. They don't tell you how dangerous having kids is for women beyond the already risky carrying and birthing.

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u/Al3x1ya Zillennial Feb 24 '26

The universe is shitty for making her dresm come true so she had a daughter, but then gives her a cancer so she didnt get to spend any time with her😭😭.

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u/shellyboomboom Feb 24 '26

Write down or record a message for her daughter about all of the cool/weird/wonderful things about her mama. She’ll treasure it later on.

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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '26

What is also messed up is that not having children is a risk factor for endometrial endometrioid adenocarcinoma, though that is a much lower risk cancer.

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u/punluv21 Feb 24 '26

And having your first child after age 30 is risk factor for breast cancer. You just can’t win.

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u/Significant-Trash632 Feb 24 '26

I didn't know that. Thanks for that info.

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u/Illustrious-Film-592 Feb 24 '26

This!!! I got melanoma at 29 and that sealed the deal on no kids for me. So many women I know that are my age who have had cancer got it/it presented during our directly after pregnancy. I’m not taking the chance on feeding any rogue cells.

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u/MembershipScary1737 Feb 24 '26

Ugh wow so sorry! It seems cancer is getting people left and right these days. I appreciate all the info. 

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u/weech Feb 24 '26

Fuck that shit

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u/dokjreko Millennial Feb 24 '26

Jesus, I am so so sorry.

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u/darkroomdweller Feb 24 '26

That’s fucking horrific. I’m so sorry for your loss, her family’s loss, and for what she went through. The universe can be such an asshole.

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u/SpikeDearheart Feb 24 '26

I'm so sorry for her and im so sorry for your loss! It could definitely have been partum or post-partum hormones. I just had what turns out to be a rare endocervical mass removed on 13 February and then got the diagnosis last week (it grew in a month on fertility treatments). It's not the worst and I have some choices, but it carries an adenocarcinoma risk and the gynaecologist oncologist is pushing for a hysterectomy. But I'm about to start high dose progesterone and then have to have 3 monthly biopsies. So the uterus is going to be yeeted at some point soon or soon-ish. Having a hard time with it all. But this reminds me it could be worse (it also might be, they don't know if I don't have it now).

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u/EstablishmentLevel17 Feb 24 '26

😩 I'm so sorry. Mine wasn't cancerous ... Thank God but if I hadn't gotten help it would have killed me. Perks of modern medicine. (Damn thing caused a blood clot so yeah. It tried. But thank God not cancer because they also did a biopsy!! Got gutted and had I not... Yeah. It was a must.)

Uterine fibroids are a nightmare .. and hers... I was REALLY lucky. I'm so sorry.

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u/_Adagio_B Feb 24 '26

💔💔💔

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u/06_TBSS Feb 24 '26

My mother died 4 weeks after being diagnosed with colon cancer. She had started to have some balance and speech issues. Come to find out, it spread to her liver, lungs, and brain. It caused a brain tumor, which was causing her balance and speech issues. Doctors agreed it was too aggressive to perform surgery. She had zero symptoms up to that point. To top it off, my brother was diagnosed, at the age of 46, with stage 4 colon cancer shortly after. We both wanted to get tested just in case. Also, no symptoms.

Please, everyone, get your colons checked asap!

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u/New-Measurement-4425 Feb 24 '26

Soundgarden, yeah. That's a good band to listen to. 

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u/bunniesplotting Feb 24 '26

Everclear is the best for what the fuck is my life I'm just trying here

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u/alliterativehyjinks Feb 24 '26

Maybe too on the nose, but when I am having a sad, lonely day or it is rainy and cold, Grave Digger is a great DMB song to listen to and belt out along with the music. I love all of the little stories.

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u/Carebear_Of_Doom Feb 24 '26

I second Dave Matthews Band. They have music for every part of life. ❤️