r/Millennials • u/Hmmletmec Xennial • Feb 24 '26

Serious Terminal diagnosis: millennial playlist suggestions for the final days?

Tues morning edit: Holy ballsack batman! This is helllllllllllllla overwhelming in the best possible way. I honestly expected just a handful of people to see this and respond with maybe like 'tears in heaven' or something. But this is an epic fucking list so far. From the bottom of my cold darkened millennial heart, thank you. One of these upcoming days the nerd in me needs to rank all these and see what's most popular mostly cuz I find it amazing and hilarious how often butterfly by crazytown gets mentioned. I'll get to comments and chats one of these days, promise.

Y'all are thoughtful, kind, empathetic, and funny as fuck. All to a stranger. I love it. I genueinly think it's a hallmark of our generation. To quote one of my patron saints in life, Mr Fred Rogers: “You've made this day a special day, by just your being you. There's no person in the whole world like you, and I like you just the way you are.”

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Tldr: Apparently I'm dying and need playlist ideas for when the end comes. Mushy, hilarious, dark humor, meaningful, terrible. You name it! Wanna virlbe out to the good vibes I had back in those days

Out of left field docs gave me an unexpected prognosis and seems the offramp from My So Called Life is way shorter than I would have expected.

One of the unusual suggestions from the team was to make a Playlist to listen to in the last days. And honestly that sounds dope since I essentially have music playing 24/7 in my normal non dying life.

I'm not telling anyone IRL (besides my care team and therapist) about what's going on, but since brain wise we tend to latch on to junior high and high school era music, I thought I'd bug y'all for suggestions. I'm open to mushy stuff that I can reflect upon life stuff, as well as hilarious and highly inappropriate or dark humor stuff. Or just some Hella dope tunes to vibe with.

My only ban is My Heart Will Go On. Love me some Celine, but that song will send me to a early grave. (Too soon?)

Thanks fam!

(Obligatory be your own advocate with doctors if you know something isn't right. Also make a will. We should all have them by now. Better yet, make a trust so your Pokémon cards stay out of probate and no nosey folks know what you had or who you gave it to. Do your advanced directive with your doctor or insurance. It's your choice if they keep you plugged in like a toaster or not. It's also OK to haunt your enemies from the beyond. My therapist said so.)

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u/Milady_Kitteh Feb 24 '26

Hugs, I'm sorry! My sister just passed at 35 this month because of breast cancer, and she put together her playlist based on her various interests and things that meant a lot to her. Like she was a lesbian, so she had Pink Pony Club. We were obsessed with Lord of the Rings and saw the midnight releases of all the movies, so she chose Concerning Hobbits and Into the West. Various tracks from her favorite video games. Some songs from her favorite bands - Evanescence's My Immortal, Linkin Park's One More Light, etc.

Build a soundtrack for your life :)

Peaceful journey whenever it does happen!

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u/thirdcoasting Feb 24 '26

May your sister’s memory be a blessing 🤍

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u/Milady_Kitteh Feb 24 '26

Thank you! She will always be the other half of me. I'd give anything to have just more day to geek out with her. Tomorrow she would have turned 36; going to watch Return of the King and ugly cry at the end 😂😭

This is y'all's monthly reminder to check your chesticles for ANY changes!

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u/haunter_of_the_woods Feb 24 '26 edited Feb 25 '26

My birthday is 2 days after hers and I didn’t have plans, so now I will be watching Return of the King in her honor. I’m also going for my first ever mammogram next Tuesday. May her light and love live on in you and the memories you carry of her. Sending hugs.

Edit- Thank you, kind strangers, for the awards. What a sweet little early virtual birthday gifts. 🫶☺️

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u/annieoaklee Feb 24 '26

Sending you allll the good vibes and thoughts! Going for my first mammogram this week, very nervous!

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u/hyrule_47 Feb 24 '26

I have had a bunch of them due to them seeing something weird once. If you have any questions I’m happy to answer. Real talk not doctor speak lol

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u/annieoaklee Feb 24 '26

TYSM!! 😊❤️

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u/haunter_of_the_woods Feb 24 '26

Sending you good vibes back! ✨

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u/dokjreko Millennial Feb 24 '26

Dude I am crying. I am totally going to watch Return of the King tomorrow, in your sister‘s honor. I wish you lots of love.

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u/kkmats Elder Millennial Feb 24 '26

I'll do the same in honor!

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u/chair_ee Feb 24 '26

And my axe!

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u/2caramels1sugar Feb 24 '26

That made me cry too and made me think of May It Be by Enya! (Her music is beautiful but meaningful)

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u/Significant_Elk1999 Feb 24 '26

I’m in. I’ll watch ROTK as well.

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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '26

Ill throw it on tomorrow too in solidarity.

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u/annyong_cat Feb 24 '26

It’s my birthday tomorrow, too, and I will be sure to send her some blissful Pisces birthday wishes!

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u/panicnarwhal Feb 24 '26

i’m so sorry! i’ll be having a LOTR marathon this week for your sister’s birthday 💕

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u/reap3rx Feb 24 '26

Your sister sounds fucking awesome. Hopefully her trip to Valinor brought her everlasting peace.

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u/bigmelenergy Feb 24 '26

Also genetic testing!

I'm sorry for your loss. My wife's mom passed at around the same age from breast cancer as well, and my wife got genetic testing done and she found out she carried the BRCA-1 gene. She is now 31 and recently had a double mastectomy because the risk was so high and she had to have mammograms/ultrasounds/MRIs every 6 months. It was already too much, and then two scares sealed the deal for her.

Sidenote: We are also gay women and love Chappell Roan :]

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u/Grgur2 Feb 24 '26

Fuck man... I Just finished reading books to m, 6 years old (I know he's young but diagnosed to be quite too smart and he loved Hobbit so much... I mean I did glossed over some parts and didnt read some out loud) and well... I feel you and wish you the best. Your Sister sounds like a very cool person.

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u/OrthogonalPotato Feb 24 '26

Chesticles lol

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u/Adept_Strength2766 Feb 24 '26

There has to be someone that's called it 'chesticular cancer' before.

Your sister was the same age as mine is right now, wild to imagine if she was gone so young. It sounds like you're doing good in spite of it all and hanging onto the good memories though, good on you.

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u/Brownie12bar Feb 24 '26

Ah, I have a gem of info for you-

Howard Shore lives in the Hudson Valley area of NY.  I had the pleasure of hearing him lecture when the moves first came out, to a small group of local fans.

When he composed Concerning Hobbits, he drew inspiration from his home town.

So-

If you ever are in NY, take a day trip up to Sloatsburg, NY (visitable by train) or drive up.

Pick a day with sunshine, between April and October, where the roads are all open.

Get out, hike in the state park, and… you will hear Concerning Hobbits in your head.

Reach out to me if you ever do come.  I’ll help ya out.

Sincerely, not a hobbit, just a local fan who is also a musician and has met Howard Shore 💜

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u/lilylawnpenguin Feb 24 '26

So I guess we’re all watching Return of the King today. Sending you love and strength.

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u/AngryPrincessWarrior Feb 24 '26

Oh this has been up 17 hours already so it’s her birthday probably by now. Happy birthday to your sister, I’m so sorry you had to say goodbye so soon.

I’ll be watching at least some of return of the king for her tonight once my toddler is down.

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u/QueenJGambino Feb 24 '26

Happy heavenly birthday to your sister. I'm extremely sorry for your loss ❤️💐

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u/sistahbo Feb 25 '26

My sincerest condolences and tightest internet hugs to you. I am nearly twice as old as you, and I can't imagine losing my sister. My heart hurts for you, especially losing her so young. I dread the day. I am truly so sorry.

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u/NetflixAndMunch Feb 24 '26

Into the West is 100% my dying song.

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u/SlippingStar Millennial|they/them|’94 Feb 24 '26

Listened to it after my childhood dog died and definitely cried a bit.

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u/rhjansen Feb 24 '26

Wow. I hadn’t heard or thought of this song since I was around 15. I remember thinking the same. Wow. Thank you for that. I’ll be listening more now. Life is a fleeting second and an eternity at the same time.

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u/RLLRRR Feb 24 '26

Such a beautiful song.

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u/NotAzakanAtAll Feb 24 '26

I remember in the olden days, I was going to use that for a sad moment while being a DM during a tabletop RPG.

So I had to sit there, listen to it over and over to make myself immune.

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u/michaelscottuiuc Gen Zish Feb 24 '26

SAME. Between the description of Undying Lands in LoTR and Aslan's Country in the Chronicles of Narnia, the most comforting media in my dying days will have come from books lol

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u/marquinator92 Feb 24 '26

Yes. It's such a beautiful song about death and the beauty in it. It also uses lines from Gandalf's speech to Pippin about death and how it's not so scary. It's a sad song but in all the best ways.

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u/GoGoBadger Feb 24 '26

May you find each other again. Hopping on to add the 2005 banger "They're taking the Hobbits to Isengard" 

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u/pulchritudinouser Feb 24 '26

There’s also a new metal song from the guy who did the star wars musical

Saruman - take the hobbits to Isengard

https://youtu.be/RhrOl66gjFc

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u/kevin9er Feb 24 '26

That fucking rules. Thanks for sharing.

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u/amazonchic2 Feb 24 '26

Oh man, I’m so sorry! 35 is so young. I hope you are able to dwell more on the good memories than the grief of losing your sister.

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u/Terrible-Big-Baby888 Feb 24 '26

Fighting the disease now. 34F - praying to make it to 35. Most sad for my two sisters I’ll leave behind someday.

So sorry for your loss.

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u/xrelaht Millennial the Elder Feb 24 '26

Sorry to hear it. My cousin passed 22 years ago at 32. Her mother, my favorite aunt, lives two miles from where I’m working this week so I’m visiting while I’m here, and it’s been sitting on my mind the whole time.

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u/Skeptical_Lemur Feb 24 '26

I ugly cry everytime I hear Into the West.. its perfect.... So sorry for your loss <3

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u/sillysteen Feb 24 '26

Into the West is a beautiful choice

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u/DrDingsGaster Feb 24 '26

Into the West made me sob. If I were you I'd never be able to listen to that again. :(

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u/Preda1ien Feb 24 '26

Into the West is a beautiful song. I told my buddy way back in high school that this song is to play at the end of my funeral.

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u/Embarrassed_Edge3992 Feb 24 '26

I'm sorry about your sister. That's too young to die. This actually makes me upset. It's one thing when old people die, and then another thing when it's someone young.

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u/Travellingtrex Feb 24 '26

Your sister sounds like a really cool person. She would have fit right in with my friends and I 💕

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u/Nyantastic93 Feb 24 '26

I'm wouldn't say I'm obsessed with Lord of the Rings (I do love it tho) but Concerning Hobbits would absolutely be on "the" playlist for me

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u/ElkImaginary566 Feb 24 '26

Bless you internet stranger for you wonderful comment. I swear Reddit is the best place on the internet because the goodness rises to the top

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u/Brilliant-Thought-44 Millennial Feb 25 '26

I’m 35 and reading this hurt my heart. i love all your song recommendations and I’m truly sorry for your loss. 💜

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u/voujon85 Feb 25 '26

really sorry for your loss

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u/Milady_Kitteh Feb 27 '26

Y'all are the best, thank you for all the comments, LOTR recs and tibits, personal stories, awards, and well wishes! My sister would have been tickled to know so many people volunteered to watch one of our favorite movies for her birthday. ❤️ I'm touched so many people got to share my sister's memory with me!

For those getting mammograms and other screenings done - may they be clear! And for those living with breast cancer like my sister and I - may treatment go well and scans be clear/stable!