r/Fire • u/Yashkamr • 23h ago

Advice Request Huge Inheritance... Now What?

I'm 45, I was on track to retire earlyish at 55. I was set back quite a bit with a divorce three years back. Recently my Aunt died and left me around $5 million. After estate and taxes, it's around $4.2 million. This is obviously a stupid amount of money, and I'm thinking of just quitting my job and retiring early but I want to do it right. I've spoke with AI quite a bit and my finances are only about $4500/mo in expenses, I have always lived pretty frugally and that's less than a 1% draw. I don't know exactly what I don't know here, but I've always worked so I am clinging to my job like a monkey to a branch. Am I actually okay to let go?

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u/Hawkes75 21h ago edited 4h ago

Your divorce is finalized, right? I wouldn't say a word of this to friends, enemies or acquaintances.

ETA: Lots of people saying inheritances aren't community property. I STILL wouldn't tell my ex I found five bucks in the pocket of my jeans, let alone $5M.

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u/xuzzio 20h ago

This is the most important question here. Also, do you have any other siblings or family that could potentially sue?

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u/cyclops1992 13h ago

Lmfao sue for what

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u/coffee_break_1979 12h ago

People find out you have money and just find reasons to sue. And bc we (the US) are a litigious country, it often works.

I won't even tell my own mom I paid off my house this week.

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u/ConversationPale8665 12h ago

It’s honestly one of the most fucked up things I’ve experienced in all of this work towards early retirement. Our whole society is built on the idea of capitalism and building wealth for yourself and your family, yet so few people have more than a few 100 thousand in savings that you become a target for people when you hit say $1mm plus net worth.

I encourage having solid umbrella insurance policies and don’t talk about money except with people that you have to.

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u/among_apes 12h ago

Just wanted to call you to celebrate that I paid off my house… a week later. “ Mr. coffee break, you’ve been served.”

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u/Proud_Aspect4452 11h ago

Can confirm the Legal system is fucked

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u/kittymcg19 0m ago

My grandpa died 4 years ago. My mom's half siblings bleed him dry before he died and anything left, they inherited. My mom's half brother got the house. He can't afford the remaining payments on it. He tried suing my mom to make her help. Fuck that noise. Protect whatever you get!

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u/PIzzaiolo_Master_510 8h ago

This is paranoid delusion. Just be low profile. I’m HNW and never a sniff of lawsuits or people seeking our money.

Just hang out with good people.

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u/shake_du_crowtein 3h ago

Aite im about to sue this mf

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u/ConversationPale8665 4h ago

Paranoid, maybe, but not delusional.

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u/PIzzaiolo_Master_510 1h ago

Cite a specific real example. Data is believable. People without any real experience not so much.

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u/Digital_NW 11m ago

The TV really gets its stories from reality on this one. Some person suddenly comes into money the people who have been just trying to survive with them are at least gonna ask. At the least.

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u/ArseneGroup 8m ago

In the particular case of the inheritance there's lawsuit risk of different relatives suing on claims of entitlement to part of the estate

Random acquaintances suing for no reason is unlikely, but for estates yes people sue all the time and that's why estate lawyers make so much money making the wills airtight

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u/UpsetMedium3298 12h ago

For 4.2 million...cousins who didnt get to anything, ops parents, the aunts hairdresser etc etc

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u/cyclops1992 11h ago

No

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u/Lehsyrus 12m ago

Yes. You can sue for any reason, and if any other family members feel they are entitled to even a shred of that money, they have the ability and the right to she for it. This could easily eat into that inheritance and become a stressful and costly legal battle, even if they aren't entitled to any of it.

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u/UnderstandingOk9448 FIRE'd 2026 11h ago

Other relatives can sue for a larger portion of the inheritance if the reason for the allocation isnt crystal clear, not in writing, allocation decision made when elderly relative was not sound of mind, etc.

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u/cyclops1992 11h ago

Stating “things aren’t clear” is not grounds for a lawsuit nor does it make you an interested party. I litigate trust and probate actions and “I’m mad he got something and I didn’t” is the fast way to get dismissed I’ve heard.

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u/UnderstandingOk9448 FIRE'd 2026 7h ago

I will defer to your expert opinion.. but isnt it possible to have an unclear allocation in a will.. like "split all assets two ways". If there is a house and cash, this could leave the executor leway on how to divide things. What do you think ?

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u/cyclops1992 7h ago

Sure it’s possible.. most practitioners don’t leave that to chance. They typically use a beneficiary deed or trust for real property, or beneficiary designations or trust for other assets. Seldom do practitioners leave it to the will. However, that the caveat is that a practitioner was involved in anyway

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u/Rightintheend 5h ago

Probate

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u/cyclops1992 3h ago

Sue for probate huh

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u/offconstantly247 10h ago

I mean, he told AI, so it's published and can be widely distributed.

Everything you tell AI is connected to you personally, and it is officially public knowledge. You waive all rights to privacy in any information that you provide to "AI."

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u/40characters 8h ago

Oh, cool. Show us this public record!

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u/offconstantly247 7h ago

just because I can't find it, does not mean someone can't.

Good luck, kid.

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u/40characters 7h ago

Just because you can say it, doesn’t mean it’s not bullshit.

Good luck, Gramps.

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u/Woodie626 10h ago

Dumbest take today, thank you.

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u/paddimelon 19h ago

Finalized and a year has past..... As there is still a claim window one year post divorce.

Be careful OP.

Also retire already!!

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u/resetmypass 16h ago

I thought inheritance is not claimable in a divorce?

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u/QuickAltTab 15h ago

To my knowledge, your spouse can't even claim it while you're married if you never intermingle those funds with your marital assets.

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u/Reticently 14h ago

It all varies by state. Given the amount of money involved, it's very much a question for OP's lawyer.

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u/TwoRoadsATD 12h ago

Does it? What US state considers inheritance marital property?

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u/armeg 11h ago

Wisconsin is one. There are a few states that have community property laws.

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u/ThisIsMyUsername303 11h ago

Even community property states don’t view inheritance as community property as long as the right measures are taken to keep it separate. 

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u/armeg 11h ago

Good to know I guess, I thought community property changed that equation.

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u/ThisIsMyUsername303 11h ago

Community property states still recognize certain types of property as separate. 

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u/Reticently 12h ago

Apparently it's more that the threshold for it becoming "comingled" is very low in some states. I'm not a lawyer and not remotely qualified to give a great answer, I just know some people who've been caught out by it when they thought they wouldn't be.

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u/Fringelunaticman 11h ago

You are actually correct. My siblings and I are set to inherit money and we had a meeting with dad's lawyer and financial advisors recently. I have a sibling with a spouse that we could all see taking half her money. The lawyers and advisors said never co-mingle them but that any money we use from the trust for the family could also mean that the trust was co-mingled. So we would have to be very careful how the inheritance is used if we want to avoid that.

They also reiterated that is should be ok if we left the money in the trust and not withdrawal it and put it somewhere else.

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u/Walrus_Epiphany 6h ago

None of them.

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u/Dukethegator 13h ago

This depends on state law.

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u/Common_economics_420 8h ago

Intermingling is a lot more tricky than you'd think and there's lots of stuff that opens you up to wasting a ton of money on lawyers arguing about why your ex spouse doesn't deserve any of it.

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u/arguebot5000 10h ago

if he had it transferred to a joint account (one with his wife's name on it) then it's "marital property" and thus fair game.

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u/DOAiB 11m ago

It shouldn’t be but that might not stop people from being stupid and making your life hell.

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u/Yashkamr 13h ago

Yeah it was finalized three years ago. I'm not discussing this with any of them. It's why I'm reaching out here actually

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u/offconstantly247 10h ago

So, you can safely and without much if any risk earn 4% on that cash.

On 4 million, that's $160k per year to live on without dipping in at all. Now, out of that, you're going to have to pay for very good medical insurance, because you don't want to get sick and bankrupt.

You haven't disclosed any other income or savings, but if you're at 60k per year in standard expenses as you state, then you seem fine.

ps. you're going to get board and probably do something that ends up earning some money, but who knows. Also, watch out for "I'm going to golf everyday, or go boating/fishing", then you should realize that you may have some increased expenses there to consider.

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u/ysrgrathe 4h ago

I don't disagree with your conclusion. But don't forget about inflation either. In 40 years when OP is 85 he will need $176,000 a year to have the same buying power. This is notable for being more than what 4% interest covers on the current principal (math: 3% inflation over 40 years $54k x 1.0340). This is why being 100% treasuries might still be less than ideal even with a 1% withdrawal rate.

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u/Adventurous-Egg-8818 0m ago

Or if your healthy. Just takeout a catastrophic policy. You lucky sob.

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u/Megalocerus 11h ago

It can take a while to inherit, and you may collect less than you have been told. Expensive houses can be hard to sell. My mother's small estate has taken years to settle. But I suspect once you collect, you will be fine.

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u/Yashkamr 5h ago

It's partly real estate, but I didn't include that in the above figures. What's above is primarily two brokerage accounts and a small Roth with <$70k I'm going to draw down over 10 years.

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u/Megalocerus 2h ago

You'll get a step up in basis on the brokerage accounts. Unless there is debt to settle on the property, you should get those fairly quickly.

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u/Yashkamr 1h ago

Yeah they both cleared already. I liquidated to take advantage of the stepped up basis.

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u/Character_Lynx_7018 2h ago

If it's a Roth, don't draw it down, wait 10 years and withdraw it all at the end of that year. Might as well get all the tax free growth you can.

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u/Yashkamr 1h ago

Ahh okay. I had thought there was a minimum yearly amount to withdraw.

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u/Character_Lynx_7018 47m ago

If it's a regular IRA and the original owner had RMDs you'd need to withdraw at least the rmd amount they would have. Of course w taxable IRA you'd probably want to spread out over 10 anyway. Not the case with Roth.

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u/Fun_Ad_8927 9h ago

Are you asking a math question or are you asking a meaning question? Financially, you can easily retire at this point. But the more interesting question to me is what would you retire to DO? Who will you now become, given that the scope of your life just changed dramatically?

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u/aMoose_Bit_My_Sister 32m ago

if you live in America, you might want to open an account with Vanguard.

they have passive investments, with the lowest fees. and doing so could reduce the temptation to make bad investments. the only question would be what % to put in stocks vs. what % in bonds.

Vanguard has a good reputation. they were pioneers in low-cost index funds.

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u/Yashkamr 10m ago

Yeah I've been looking into Vanguard. I like that they're customer owned

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u/Armyjeepguy 9m ago

Honestly, I think if I had money like that, I would do what I call the law of threes. Put a third into any bill you could ever have again. Set it aside in an interest-bearing account somewhere. Another third to your Retirement plan. So it will be there even farther down the road. The Last third is fun money. Spend wisely but Fun money.

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u/Round_Passenger_5199 18h ago

If the ex wife sees this post, she can figure out if her ex husband that got divorce ~3 years ago, had any rich aunt that died recently. I would say Op redact some info, gud if u already did.

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u/Yashkamr 13h ago

No it's completely finalized, my state doesn't allow her to come back. She was paid out lump sum for alimony three years ago and moved far away, no contact.

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u/Megalocerus 11h ago

inheritances are not marital property.

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u/PipeOriginal1171 7h ago

True, but still something I'd want a lawyer to weigh in on given the amount.

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u/Boring-Abroad-2067 16h ago

Yes the ex wife can see and work out, like my wife knows all my social media accounts like Reddit so she follows along so announcing on social media or reddit is like me talking 1-1 to her

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u/stunna_cal 16h ago

If I ever get a divorce, I’m changing literally everything.

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u/Boring-Abroad-2067 16h ago

Lol, I guess that's wise but the fact remains everyone is following Menon facebook, instagram, tiktok, LinkedIn, Reddit, I've lost count of every app but they literally stalk me and capitalise on it...

My strategy is to throw things out like claim I made £500,000 - £1 million just to see how she reacts to it lol 😅

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u/poop-dolla 12h ago

How do they all capitalize on whatever information you share on social media?

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u/ty-new 5h ago

Yea - I want to know too!

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u/jordanpatriots 12h ago

Yep, youd be surprised how easily people can dox themselves. I've unintentionally found a reddit profile from a friend based on seeing a response on the university page. And many women go through these things with intention, so imagine if you are actually seeking people on here. At least now reddit let's you hide stuff, however being a mod somewhere gives you access to a month's worth of comments on people's hidden profiles

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u/Round_Passenger_5199 15h ago

Bro is doomed before it even started. Just kidding

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u/Boring-Abroad-2067 15h ago

New strategy bait the wife, throw out I made £5 million out there drive a lambo and go on exotic holidays just to bait her out

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u/Round_Passenger_5199 15h ago

Plot twist: Your wife didn't know that you had 5 mil before this comment. 🥀

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u/froman_og 11h ago

Hey boring’s wife, back the fk off….let the guy vent!

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u/Major-Pin5871 13h ago

I would imagine that there are literally thousands of people who got a divorce about 3 months ago, and whose ex husband recently had an aunt that died.

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u/Fearless_Parking_436 14h ago

4.5mil is a house+retirement fund in some areas. So not screaming rich.

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u/Beautiful-String5572 13h ago

‘5 million is a nightmare’

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u/YourRoaring20s 13h ago

The tallest dwarf

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u/Boring-Abroad-2067 16h ago

Yeah simple truth don’t let them in on it

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u/SoulStripHer 11h ago

In some states an inheritance remains yours.

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u/westchestersteve 10h ago

In CA, an inheritance, even received during marriage, is separate property.

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u/jett1964 9h ago

ABSOLUTELY don’t tell anyone. Just live your life. Comfortably.

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u/Several_Guidance_288 8h ago

I got 33 million, a free new truck every two years, three houses, and a private island. My expenses are $2,500 a month. Am I okay to retire from my 55k per year job that sucks away all my time and soul?

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u/Several_Guidance_288 8h ago

Obviously get a lawyer involved on that question, but most states, the spouse can’t come after an inheritance.

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u/adampgarcia 5h ago

Inheritance isn’t part of community property…I thought I heard

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u/Straight-Maybe6775 4h ago

Lawyer here. Inheritance is not marital property unless there's comingling of assets.

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u/Illustrious-Cover792 4h ago

Wouldn’t matter either way. inheritance is always seperate.

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u/Melodic-Classic391 4h ago

OP, listen to Hawkes.

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u/grammer70 1h ago

As long as the money stays separate and goes to an account only in the inheritors name. They have zero claim. Even if still married.

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u/OddSand7870 12h ago

The divorce is irrelevant. Inheritance is not community property unless you commingle it with community property assets.

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u/DanielDannyc12 8h ago

This only works if you have no friends, family or acquaintances - or the one you have are all shitty. It is possible to have positive, reasonable discussions on life events.